Am I naggy? haha too bad, hereditary trait... or maybe I'm just too 'old' haha. Somehow I like to pass knowledge on to other people, or rather, points of views, just as what I had always been praying in SML temple. Haha, and expectedly people will get bored, but actually other than that I got nothing to talk about, I'm not a gamer, and my music likings are.... old... so the only thing I can do is to pass whatever I have left. Another trait is I tend to 'pray' very long, despite being a free thinker, since somehow, hopefully, in one way or another, the prayers can accumulate for the beneficiary. My prayers usually include family as a whole, my parents, friends as whole, wlwx, rv, cheuck n weide, indo friends, my targets and my actions, finally my personality, end of with 'may every soul have peace and happiness'. Ofcoz long larh! Somehow I find joy talking to James Lek haha. Anyway, JPiC Forum is up again, maybe I can continue some literature =) and yea, 'Just call me nobody', a movie, is coming out in 30jan, might watch it probably on countdown or new year =) Got two of my favourite celebs inside, Jacky Wu and Mark Lee =) Ofcoz the kid is damn cute too haha. Because the world is imperfect, it makes it perfect, =) though still I would complain about things =) to exercise my brain and mouth =)

Example, teachers, I think a good teacher is one who have the respect of students yet be as one with students, one that will guide them instead of enforce, inspire and be a good role model at least in front of them =)

Parents, nowdays young parents very cmi, firstly a lot of them mistook lust as love, so the definition of marriage differ, and many are career minded, so the love they give to the kids are insufficient, secondly they frequently treat them as a showcase, comparing in terms of anything and eveything, thirdly, giving birth is to justify motherhood for woman so if anything wrong can always turn to orphanages, men are now even more lecherous.

I seen cases where their father are under affairs, I feel sad for them, especially when they are now above 15, as old as uni graduates. Yes, though due to kids growing up, dads have nothing to do, no kids to shower their fatherly love, cold and distant towards the children, but think of the wife, suddenly after such long cherishable marriage why the need of another play thing? The children though can understand, but it is still a blow to them, and definitely not a good role model for them. Some cases they neglect their child to the extent they starved to death, thats inhumane! On the other scale, there are some whom I know under special needs, they have loving parents that will brace every obstacles in their paths to continue raising the kid, teaching the kids, loving the kids, these parents are mighty! Sigh, well, thats the complain I want.

In a way, maybe some people are just destined to do so, for the benefit of the balance in the world, including love and hate, care and neglect, dedicated and dutiful. But still, having a well off simple life, I'm loving it! Thus so far, all these years, I always think that having a simple life is fine, is the happiest of all, sufficient for living, have slight storage for emergencies. Some people live a simple life with 2k, yet some have the same simple life with 9k, despite living in the same city, is life amusing? Yes, dads always say prepare for the unexpected, but why cant think of the solution when it happen, or rather why so sure misfortune will occur? And what is the consequences of a rich life, personality, thoughts, views will change, standard of living will change, moral will change.... sigh

Smooth days with me. I think this is a great holiday for me =)

My first:
Fishing
Squash
Pottery course
Playing twister
Met new friends
Went to seek out for jobs
Eating pizza to my stomach max (omg worst than buffet)
So active on fb
Had overnight chalet with rv
Not sleeping at night
Sleeping 14h over 4.5 days
Drank whiskey
X-mas mood (took notice of carols and have the spirit)

Sigh, not saying bad about someone, but sometimes things seriously will screw up.

Firstly in terms of organizing, follow ups is a must even if we skip the 'pay money first' procedure. Updates to committee including facebook group in charge is a should. Food to but to be confirmed asap and specific not by saying 'anything' or 'anyhow'. If do not know how facebook group function should ask for assistance and try to learnt, not reject facebook due to persnal reasons and assume things.

For responsibility, one should be man of your word until life and death situation, must deliver what we promised or agree. Should be able to excuse yourself from less prioritized matters such as principal briefing on craps and must have full support from parents to avoid last minute 'grounding'.

I conclude, this 2 days is two of my most disappointing days even if it's smooth. Since nothing is flawless, though at the spot is a nice peaceful and beautiful activity, I'll just have to clean up the mess, including find a way to pay back some of the bbq attendees as they had paid double for the massive amount of food ordered without even 50% attendance. I really wondered, why did I even bother int he first place? for once I'm gonna say, FML... at least for being such 'KPO'... oh well, it's a outside-texbook lifelong study of humans =)

Today bbq was a failure on the participation. There was no self-improvised amazing race, no code-guessing, no forfeits nor weird games to leave a memorable memory after 4 distant years. However I guess they all had fun, 7 of them. Did not knew why did I put in so much effort to plan for the food, compare prices, think of cheapest solution, think of unique games including amazing race, cook bee hun, and etc, but well, at least met 3 nice friends, especially triple H =) he is rather talkative, thats why I like, though no common topic, still it was a peaceful and smooth day with him and the rest. Tai was happily chatting about dota with them i guess, and cheuck, oh well he's always cheerful haha, except tuesdays. Well, they are all academically smart =) Wilson is a great chef haha, he was able to make best of everything was left there. Oh, ofcoz we had to thank bcc for providing utensils, and cheuck for asking the neighbour pit to lend lighter and charcoal =)

Yesterday old folks home is a rather bore, was expecting having fun singing and making fool up on stage, yet crashed with some church group, so basically did nothing besides be excited and lift the atmosphere for bingo.

Tomorrow is child care, followed by sx and valerie surprise party on tuesday night, hope everything will be smooth =)

This weekend is smooth, though not as enjoyable, but is two new ventures =) glad of it, appreciated it.

Among all the o level graduates, all I hear is 2 things: one is that they complain they are unemployed, the other is that work is killing them. What they hell, have a work dont complain so much, enjoy the process, must love it, then can improve efficiency, or juz quit and get those who havent tried to cover so they will experience it larh! Ppl are weird, always want the things they dont have and complain after getting it... haha, well, not all, glad some of them dont.

Anyway, had a fun night at Randy's party, juz let the 'insults' breeze pass my ears as what the horoscope says: You have a tendency to overreact. While it might be hard, your challenge is not to take people's criticism of you personally. Glad I stumbled across the horoscope, coz Jo was fking kaobei in the morning, I would have flared up if not for the horoscope omg! well, knowing what life have in store is good too =)

Another great weekend passed woohoo~!

Fri went for fishing with yimei, her bro, 2 friends, Cheuck, Kayjin, Jo and Tai. Well, let a few sharp remarks off, and indeed it led to a smooth night and day. Learnt a lil about fishing and how to cast and reel... it was... much easier than expected. Had a sleepless night playing card like blackjack and showhand haha, very agitated and excited though no money involved haha. We had a great supper and a whole night on bike with cheuck at the back seat

Sat morning reeled in a small fish, while Jo reeled in a big one. Then went to have a lone lunch before having an hour nap till 3.30pm, and carnival at night after throwing a feast with fmaily and jo and tai. The carnival was great haha. 3 bucks for 10 game coupons, a bingo ticket, popcorn, candy floss, ice kacang and a goody bag, it was like striking lotto! Oh in fact we did win a round of the bingo, got ourselve $30 voucher!

When it was gonna end, we decided to abandon queuing for the games and give them away. That was the best part of the night, I felt like a Santa, giving them the coupons in exchange with 'thank you's and 'merry christmas', and the last 2 went to two lucky kids after a 'loudest HOHOHO contest' haha. The reactions of some parents was priceless.

Sun went to wushu with cheuck, we did a different training, perhaps shixiong wants us to learnt neijia quan already. cheuck was struggling with ma bu haha. Then we joked at macd until 2 then we parted as I make my way to esplanade for a concert.

It was worth it, very much worth it, worth the dragging of my feet. Nanyang poly Co rocked! with conductor Mike Chiang. He was really casual and popular haha, so we really enjoyed the concert thoroughly without the 'formal restrictions'. For the first time I saw the hall full house. He began with 'Relax and enjoy! no need to be so tight, for those who know the songs, sing along!'. Really cool guy =)

Watch:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gVoGojzTaF4&feature=related
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fMBzKvBZGQY&feature=related

張宇 張三的歌

Marvelous!! 棒极了！！

Warning: this post might be offensive to some readers as it is about beliefs, thus refrain from further reading.

Today was epic, we linked alot of legends together. It all started with cheuck mixing up western and eastern legend, then we ventured out to say about santa. Santa lives in the moon with chang er and her bunny. Then one fine day he climbed the beanstalk to saw ru lai, thus being punished under the five finger mountain, and waited for tang san zhang to rescue him. Then he flew to the eastern sea palace and took the eastern magical needle (jin gu bang), with his bunny, there goes eater bunny.... and due to this, tang san zhang became the master of death by having the possession of the jin gu bang, the jin gu zhou headband and the cloak... muahahaha... and yea they all went for a journey to the west to witness the xmas baby, during which jade emperor received gossip about zhu ba jie thus banish him to the barn, and santa was angry so he said 'trick or treat'.... =) make sense? ahha

Had a great night with my cell and kok guan's cell, carolling. Especially as we touch into Mary's Boy Child. This was a song that had parted me for too long, so as we sang it, I could remember the lyrics very clearly, and even the tune (though in the end they're version different than what I have heard) clearly reverberated in my mind. It was also that momnent, I was as if woke up from an amnesia, memories of my childhood came back. I remembered I was slumbering in the 3-seater seat in my parents car, probably exhausted after in awe with a big xmas tree. I remembered the grey cassette labelled xmas carols with 20 songs, yet that song was put on repeat then. My parents then was talking stuffs that seemed loquacious to me then, but the whole atmosphere was rather warmth even as the windshield wipers was at 0.5Hz with the aircon at high. The seat was not comfortable that I had to stretch to fit in the 2 depressions, so called 'holes'.

That was for the day. However I do realize that I think my memory is recovering. I could now remember things that I couldn't just half a year ago. Since around november I realize I can remember my childhood better, or rather the image, the memories, are clearly, are less intangible, as if I was living through them again each time part of it came back. I'm really grateful. =)

Believe it or not, I think the estrangement of school is hindering me from grasping my happy childhood. Maybe just like matilda, as people are given pressure and goals, they tend to look forward and forgetting what they had been through in the cost of forsaking some 'abilities', and eventually, the past will fade, but will be polished again as we recognize some familiar tunes or objects as we take a break. I think, this is a wonderful break for me. Though majority wants school, I think I prefer this state now, at least for the time being. The world don't stop because I stop, but since I got this opportunity, I think I should enjoy and live this break to the fullest first =)

From Freud theory, it could be also that +/-3% of our brains is conscious whereas the rest are subconscious, so since there are lesser things to be conscious about, some things might 'diffuse' into the +/-3%. Like the delete button and the data recovery button... ermm.... or rather the drag to file function, the some data exchange themselves =)

Tom and Jerry - The Night before Christmas [HQ]

Dolly Parton & Kenny Rogers - Sometimes when we touch lyrics

Alan Jackson - Remember When

Alan Jackson - That'd Be Alright

woohoo~ next tue interview for work =) all the best to me, and all the best for ting sheng zhu jiao for his future choices and endeavors~!

活过/阿杜

張學友 - 追

一个人没观点，看法，意见，对于别人的。。。
还算是人吗？人所以叫人，因为我们的思想与禽兽差别。。。
无法完成第一行，因为连你的博客都放了隐私，
不是不对，可是是我劝了你一句从你博客上知道的质料，
半个小时后就安装了隐私，不是在避开吗？不是故意的吗？
反正，你认为人是不会变的，不并非认同，而且还觉得你变了。。
不知是否我个人的问题，我觉得我们兄弟的关系与日疏离。
也罢，你是玄武，我是朱雀，必然性格有天渊之别
一个在天上，一个在深海，唉~
南北韩今日刚开炮，希望这不是个预言。
这四年与来的日子真令我难忘，何必在这儿毁掉？
很希望，是我想太多了罢了！
不想让你走的不愉快，这张‘信’就得迟延了。

or simply u're a coward. just to part for a month and u're already missing us to the extend u're afraid of not being able to let go, when u know urself sooner or later somehow somewhere some reason we still have to part, how much time as a teen do we have left? alienating urself to give urself a 'lee way' so that u wont feel as bad? that's depriving chance to have more happy memories, as 2010 goes, who knows how will we change? sigh.... at least i hope u're this way, and therefore set ur blog to private to avoid us looking at ur long post probably writen later at midnight. sure wish this way rather than a drifting friendship, or rather brotherhood.

Everything will be fine in the end, if it's not fine, it's not the end - Xun Hong.
Im sure this is not the end.

Horoscope result:
Try to talk from the heart and be prepared to discuss what you're going through, especially if others have been imposing on you in any way. You will make things worse by clamming up, which isn't the best course of action. Neither you nor anyone around you is particularly tactful, so this is the perfect chance to clear the air

Flights to HK around 8am:
‎7:55 Tiger Air TR2962
8:05 AA AA6094
8:05 Cathay Pacific CX710

I'm betting on tiger, no matter what, as a friend, i would like to see u off, whether or not u see me. ciao...

Today I learnt this word from the quiz, what word in the dictionary are you?:

ERUDITE
You are well-educated as the word erudite means learned or knowledgeable

and also a song from what christmas song are you?:

Santa Baby
Christmas is the Season of Getting!! And not just any getting, it's only top of the line for you. Like the song says, "Come and trim my Christmas tree with some decorations bought at Tiffany's." But your not completely heartless. If Santa's good to you, you'll be good to Santa.

haha quite catchy, like the song 暗恋你 by Jacky Cheung, or heart and soul

WHAT TYPE OF LOVE ARE YOU?
Kyanta got You know what love is.
An inexplainable yet incredibly strong feeling for someone...Most people use the word "love" to get into someone else's pants. Love is overused in today's world, people say they love someone because of the way they look or their body. That isn't love. Love is when you can't do anything without thinking about that person, you always want to be with them. It's not that you want to have sex with them, you just want to spend time with them and you just want to hold them and never let go. Love can be fooling, yo

=) =) =)

Cheuck is back
This sunday gotta film comedy fightings
Next wed going watch Harry Potter
Woots~!

Today changed plan... again...

Suppose to go ktv, and rather confirmed 8ppl, yet one by one rejected, due to unforseen circumstances or mood. If anyone feel 'bad' about the change of plan I really think should be me. KTV is my life, cancelling it is like depriving me of a life, I doubt anything beats that.

Went bowling instead, since me and Jo have free vouchers due to the signing up of the go-kart thing on 28 nov. Really fun with sx around haha, he never fails to brighten our spirits up hahahaha. Wanted to ambush sin5, but he was rather busy, according to him, so we left for cafe cartel and camped till their half price deserts promotion at 9pm for the vikings and the rock (4 person's share ice cream). Then wanted to go Jo's carpark with sin5 but he decided not to, so walked from sx house till jo's house and taught him a little chinese, which failed again because his mum do not believe him. Sigh. Disappointed again. I never had a successful student before. In fact, I think I screwed some up. Hmm.. wait.. I think I have one, sin5 hahaha, part time student, because he picked up piano due to canon in c, then he approached Jo and Tai. Woohoo~ at least one potential hahahaha.... pathetic.... sigh...

Been reading facebook, i'm rather fed up with people personality change because of bgr love. Fuck love. Those are lust. A strong inclination toward a particular lowly being which received selfishness and jealousy with open arms, in the process kicked out acceptance and time for others. Crazy bunch of mud-bloods. They're so impure, soo... sigh... What can I do? Free will...

Sometimes, you always want a person to stay the same as you first met him, but what can do you, you're changing yourself too, change is always constant.

I'll be closer with my family for lunch again, and will rot at home for songs.

Anyway, I really think that anyone, should put up a front in any situation, a happy, eager, willing, pleased front, even if a plan fails, or you got some trouble later on but in midst of some joyous or fruitful event. If I can do it why can't others? Sigh, probably be countered by other things I couldn't produce....

Once a failure, forever failure, no wonder there is perfectionist, cowards of life, fear of success, fear of defeat...

Today went training late, then played some games and had lunch before going up to tai house. Francis was here this time, he was jamming with sin5, felt very relaxing and enjoyable though I was not in there haha. On one hand really glad to see them playing happily and had such great times, yet on the other hand self-pity got no music talent, like ting sheng zj, but his excuse was that the world is fair since he is already good in a few area, must have some bad... but what's my specialty? Im not even a jack-of-all-trades.

Then went with Jo to cut his hair, met my mum at tm for her new hp and dinner.
Had a feeling somehow some reason, I think I had changed. I couldnt feel the happiness I have been feeling the past few years. My life... 50% of it is music, is ktv, and it was that reason I met few of my close friends, cheuck and wlwx, but now ktv seems to be a monster, a horror, a hideous thing, like voldermolt, never to be mentioned in front of me. All I get was 'oh no no why did you say that word!' or 'dont want go, go yourself', or 'oh no there comes the horrible singing'... sigh.. guess im really a pariah.

I labelled someone a coward because he locked himself at home because he felt betrayed by his 'friends', then I thought it was deserved because he didnt dare to find other social circle, but now, I almost have to label myself similarly too.

I think it's time for me to find new social circle. Hope that through minds and poly I could find a suitable social circle for my current personality, or I would just put up a front and lock myself at home too =)Somehow, my current social circle seemed to be drifting apart, not really, only me drifting, but yea, I got sudden sensitivity to some words, though they admit they were being guailan, which made them not guailan, but yea, i dont think i wanna brace another few of those anymore. Sincerely gratful for all the happy memories shared, relationship is hard to part, same as memories, but humans are hard to grasp, eventually there will be farewells, except this is not farewell, just that i might not be able to devote as much time as i used to be, but i truly appreciate that few portions of my life =) =(

“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.” Lao Tzu

良言一句三冬暖，恶语伤人六月寒

怒如手握火炭，欲施于人，最先伤己

There's a weird energy radiating around you on Monday and Tuesday, mostly having to do with your relationship with your closest friends. Clear the air before you say goodbye. The Capricorn Moon can lead you to misinterpret people's intentions on Wednesday and Thursday, so try not to take things too personally. Friday through Sunday is a good time to make decisions based on what you think rather than how you feel. -horoscope of 8nov-14nov.... should have known it haha

Read at your own risk. May contain criticism towards a particular group.

Perfectionists.
There's a few perfectionists I encounter in my life. I think they all carry the same trait: they're pain in ass. Firstly, they are cowards. They fear success, they fear rejection. They fear success because once they achieve it they are unwilling to lose it, yet afraid they're not up to standard. They are rather ignorant because they only accept their own point of view. They will exaggerate trivial matters. They felt that everything must be perfect or it is screwed. They definitely will feel 'not sufficient' if anything screws up.

I think this is one of the hardest group to be dealt with. Luckily my dad is not an extreme perfectionist. Well, heard of a case of an attitude Father today. Was researching how to deal with but turned out in vain. Sigh. Felt inadequate.

Through my experience, there's only two ways to deal with. First is to kept apologizing like a dog and coax him into old habits and accept that he couldnt be changed. Second is to confront and 'talk sense' into him once and for all with the probability of disharmony and cold war. Yet he will be a changed man and life will be not as tough as before, and might even deepen mutual understanding.

Today shixiong gave us souvenirs from wudang. He gave me '学无止境', at first I wondered why, since I prefer '难得糊涂', because I believe I used to be one who at times dont say out my feelings in order to maintain the happy state of another person. However these few weeks Im getting a little too sensitive. Thus it might suit me as it means to turn a blind eye sometimes, sometimes it's wiser to let flow than to manage it your own. However as I read the sub-message of mine, it read, '我尝终日不食,终夜不寝,以思,无益,不如学也'. At first I didnt fully understand the difference between '学' and '思', because how to learn if never think. However through researches I found out the relationship is '学而不思则罔，思而不学则殆'. If only learn but never think about it (thoughtless cramping of knowledge), you're just deceiving yourself, because it's pointless learning. Yet if you only think but don't learn, it's dangerous because the same fact, knowledge, or wisdom, could have devastating effect when use in wrong context. So to fully understand the culture, must both think and learn at the same time. Thanks to shixiong, I knew a greater, more personal and deeper understanding of '学无止境' which I first thought just a plain encouragement for students to work hard.

The world amazes me haha. bringing a pen knife to return to another person is a serious crime, yet scissors and pens are allowed? anything could be weapon! halloween murder started just because someone's tattoo is admired? I would do that too. He willingly showcase such beautiful tattoo who would not want to take a few glance, it's free of charge and no pain or maintenance or risk needed. in the process, no one bothered to help, the victim could just say 'no offence, i love that tattoo', no one called ambulance? students getting into trouble because of facebook status update, one was expelled because he vented his anger online. ridiculous. Oh, best of all, a prefect is chosen, forced to take the responsibility, as well as forced to buy a $7.50 shirt.

All these incidents are rather amusing. The original meaning of things eroded, transforms, diversified overtime. Just as the meaning of love and trust.

oh yea, wrote this on my status: ‎... sometimes when people discussing about serious stuffs, the word 'lol' really piss me off.... whats so hilarious about it? sigh cant help, language nowadays..

sin5 enlightened me with this reply: i wonder what is exactly the significance in typing this 3 letters. why not type 707 instead la. at least it mean somethin

so either by stupidity or literature, since it's opposite of laugh out loud, so it means remorse in silence?? woo hoo~!!

Was doing some quiz then these are the results:

You are special in every way. You are one of everything. You can be mean and bitchy but be a kind person at the same time. You can be sad and crying, but push it aside for a friend. You are creative whether its artisticly, or mentally. You have a temper, but you only use it when neccesary. You are curios, and talented. You have many friends, know lots of people, but inside, you wonder about everything. You have been hurt in the past, but you saty calm and focused enough not to show your hurting inside.

You don't let many people in, but when you do it's the most intimate thing you can do. You have a depth many don't see immediately, so don't think negatively if someone shines the eqivilalent of a flashlight into your waters. They can't see your true beauty. Remember, beauty lies within. Your heart and soul encompasses all that is you. You are giving, loving and engaging. You are unique and mysterious, but don't let your murky depths rule you. Every once in a while, let someone see a flash beneath the sea.

So I recalled what I felt last time. Used to felt as if everything was a show, that everyone are just putting up fronts, thus somehow im rather ambiguous myself. Alot of times in situations, I have mixed feelings, mostly on the two extremes, especially the 'enlightened', the 'childish', the 'dont-give-a-damn', the 'sensational'. Thus i wondered what am I truthfully. It's a feeling like I want to have everything, as well as have nothing, perhaps nothing therefore everything? Sometimes always want to be rather intimate to some, but hold back due to the fear of change in personality. I think if I have a fear, I would have the fear of not recognizing myself. Samy once quoted: I have many friends, none close. True, on one hand yes I have many friends, yet all I want is for them to be happy with me, thats all, so besides that im rather lonely, and nothing much to talk actually. I felt my topics with people will run out, have to teach or do activities to spark off conversations.

Anyway I think I teach better than I learn, or rather set questions haha, teach wise, I think I have tendency to make simple conplex, make complex simple, that ppl screw up coz of me, thus bad teacher... but due to butterfly effect, im sure somehow can help, in fact, help in the opposite direction still help, can make them feel urge to rearrange the screwed up puzzle in their head.

Anyway really glad 'studying' with cheuck and hua long these few days. Felt like had taught them something, be it whether they fully comprehend. and their energy level very high, very motivational. sigh, wonder if they feel the same....

I think they really make me feel good, make me feel useful, motivate me to continue make a difference, like the boy flinging starfishes into the sea. Though he did nothing great but just to accompany listen to my crap and torturing him with weird questions, I really really appreciate it, more than teaching anyone else in my life, except maybe sheng hui in his piano, but soon i'll leave music, coz i just suck at it, untuned ears for them. I might consider cheap tutor as a part time, minds cafe too, and many lil of storytelling... HAPPINESS

If money grew on hackberry trees,
If time wasn't such a luxury;
If love was lovesick over me:
That'd be alright.

If I could keep the wind in my sails,
Keep a hold of the tiger by the tail;
A half a ham sandwich in my lunch pail:
That'd be alright.

Hey, go heavy on the good and light on the bad,
A hair more happy and a shade less sad.
Turn all that negative down just a tad:
That'd be alright.

If my dear ol' dog never got old,
If my family farm never got sold.
If another bad joke never got told:
That'd be alright.

Yeah, that'd be alright.
Yeah, that'd be alright.
If everybody, everywhere,
Had a lighter load to bear,
And a little bigger piece of the pie.
We'd be livin' us a pretty good life,
And that'd be alright.

maths p1 died, qn 4b, 5, 14b, 23dii, 20c, worst of all 11c which i spend my last 1h of paper thinking about it....

26 marks gone in p2....

eng my compo sux, worst story ever written, though speech is great...

sigh, ready to repeat another year as a private candidate i guess, at least a year of fun again, without sch i hope, and get better grades, into desired course....

finally had fallen, since sec 1 had been kept going up, till sec 3 plunge down, then struggled and got lots of fluke, now... i think im defeated, oh well, just another year, with much humiliation and disappointment form lots of ppl around me inc parents, wushu mates and samy rajoo...

or i could go overseas and try my luck to work early?? or at most beg steal borrow =) consequences of too much carelessness in me, not suited for academics, better in society i guess?

Totally understand, relate, and comprehend the quote: "That day we learned, when your friend flunks, you feel bad, when he tops, you feel worse."

I was not over confident, neither lack of confidence, but couldnt let myself to believe i got myself so careless! some say 1 mark cost a 100 position in nationals, what about 40? I doubt my A will be there, then what's left for me? A maths? doubt I can make it for A, as kamath said, im at utmost B3, what can i do? sci was pathetic for me, can't even grasp B, I think I dont see myself anymore, wake up! what was I doing? be affected by such trivial thing? for the first time in my life? Cant help myself... Im gone...

Somehow, o lvl didnt feel quite right, amazingly easy, amazingly careless haha. Then in between feel like ordinary exams, on mon i even felt like sleeping halfway before continuing. heard that cheuck fell ill too today, hope it wasnt my spread. by the way, really gratful for the panadol on mon or i wont have survived the paper... anyway hope all the best, i finished maths in an hour, spend an hour on re-thinking the probability question i better be right....

'Dun type so many meaningful de things ... I need to like all lei'
- Zhigao

haha, damn cute damn zai hahahaha, best pal i have, cheered me up so high just befre exam hahhahaha....

Just realised there's a english version of 《祝福》, however the meaning of the lyrics is not as touching and meaningful as the mandarin version =)

Enjoyable day today!
Really euphoric haha
glad to have chueck, he is very a very hyper and hyped person =)

went for bball under the scorching sun! but was fun, though reluctant to run haha, too hot, did a dare of singing in front of a cc staff hahaha. mahjong awhile in my house, taught cheuck a lil of canon.

studied with hualong, him and tim too, learnt about geog about coastal protection =)
finally looked at a lit marking scheme, finally understand how to improve lit.
stumbled across a phy question for ms toh, corrected some screwed up concepts and eradicated some could-have-been-trapped questions, and shared what i knew about some questions and general knowledge =) all these in mere 3h =) how fruitful =)

tomorrow gonna have tuition with samy =) then pop excel as usual.

Feel so good without school, and harvested more too!

Let's see, did 2 chem papers today, 3 eng papers, 1 compo, finish servicing my lg hp. Wow never knew I would have soooo much time without school!!! Felt so much better, esp in those few moments with Samy Rajoo, though yesterday's 3h session with him has much more laughter haha. Tmr gonna bball in the morning and study with HuaLong at 3pm.

Btw I skipped school without my parents knowing, not to say approval haha. Too much anger in there larh. Yes, partly because of the bread thing. Walan leh just eating a small bread in class cannot arh? Yes larh school rules say no larh, what if people wanna faint le can't eat arh? That morning so hungry, furthermore day before not happy, that day wanted to start happy to invite the 'happy' energy, but tio fucked. Sigh, school marh, so discouraging, esp his 'at most you're a B3 standard', wtf! Yea larh it's his style, it's his way of speaking, he's good teacher no doubt, but Samy is better =) I'm not someone who loves to remember past scores but I lean on window grill to listen cannot arh? Singing in free time to have a little atmosphere cannot arh? Somemore everytime say I not sincere in apology, lol what you want me to do? cry and beg for forgiveness, suck my balls man! What other people more convincing in assurance of improvement? I drama say I too drama, I nod say I insincere, fuck yourself man!

SCHOOL SUX!

Another wasted day I guess, Monday Blues I suppose. Skipped my free period to sneak out of the school to find johann, much to my great disappointment. Sigh, well can't blame him, been expecting too much on him, for a home lover to be expected to be partying and being wild after his n level, I must be an idiot.

However I must say I can't really take it much longer, I need something very high and enjoyable to lift my mood up. Been waiting for that since 2 weeks ago actually, I really need it before my o level, a propeller, a booster, like the exothermic reaction which made rockets fly to sky up int he sky.

Sigh, perhaps these few days was just in a bad mood. Everything seemed frustrating, even the word 'please' behind a sentence. I seriously feel like punching whoeever said that, it was so cocky, arrogant, stuckup to me. Sigh. And every actions seemed loathsome, even when someone tried to ask a classmate question in midst of answering my question, I find it so rude, it's like totally insulting me, disregarding me. And the stupid expression of some of them, and those insulting terms they used, 'you dumb ah?', 'how you survive until sec 4?', 'wa lao eh', especially from some guy named R____, with that irritating tone and voice.

Perhaps I need some wine or spikes, or probably some fights, or simply just throw stones in the reservoir. And maybe just for these few days find a new circle of friends with super outgoing attitude. Who will that be? Or just some ktv perhaps? or maybe food?

ARGH!! So much anger in me... again...

It's 10/10/10 today =)
Today went samy class, did a full compo on the title 'write a story o witnessing a act of kindness that changed your view of life', I wrote the boy picking up seashells story, just elaborate it and add dramatic feelings into it. =) Remember, you can make a difference =)

Was talking about this with johann just now. Had i made an impact on people? I'm not sure, samy once said i'm a loner, coz i have no fixed group, much like angus regarding himself as jumper except i dont jump, just being a hermit =) This is probably one of the reason i dont want to be a teacher, cuz it's not really rewarding =) I taught many people in different subject before, all i ever received was ungrateful attitude. Well, few which, even though they dont mean it, really shatters me are: 'I'm not surprised if kaya teach wrong', '(after an accident) I'm not learning anymore!', why? They not only did not improve, but gave up! Sigh, that's why I'm really grateful I got to know samy, he really rocks! He is very motivating, inspiring, dedicated. I think without him I would have gave up on english and life already. Thus im now sending motivational sms to people, hoping it will make an impact on them, no matter how great or small, at least i could help. Just hoping I can help.... Sigh...

quoted from weiliang koh:
Food for thought: At this moment, when you think about what kind of life would you, your loved ones and friends would be leading for the next 10 yrs, does it sound meaningful or exciting to you? perhaps it's a good time to think about it on this special sunday:) Happy 101010 ppl! ♥

Sounds interesting, yet I have no concrete goals or dreams or passion... Perhaps, I would just have minor ones, I would like to:

-have a goal, dream, purpose in life
-improve my piano
-improve my sjg
-improve my singing, learn a song of different languages (currently have 6)
-take on something interesting
-get a suitable course
-be more optimistic
-able to make an impact to more people
-able to bring happiness to people
-more friends but more bonds between wushu people and family

=) wow thats alot... haha, wow thats 10~!.. haha, but some have sub parts haha
祝我一生十全十美，十亲九敌，十人九慕，十战十胜！！

Thoughts 1：

If you were in a line and you see someone approached another guy in front of you to jump in the queue, would you be angry? I'm pretty sure you would. Well, actually from another point of view, don't you think it's the same? Let's take the person jumping queue as A and the person in the line as B, if A were to give his order for B, then the counter have to take A & B's orders, same as that when A and B both in the queue. So why the fuss? Some may argue that it is the frustration of you waiting so long yet a random person cut the line, however that is again mistaken. Though A did not wait, but B did, thus actually by right that pair/group had more net 'toil' than you. Dude, think!

Thoughts 2:

What would my son be like? I think firstly he must enjoy his childhood, i will bring him out and enjoy traditional games as much, hopefully foster bonds, if not at least he had experience playing gonna-extinct-games. I won't pressurize him for ace or to study 24/7, but i will constantly motivate him =) I won't dwell in his mistakes except if repeated, thus will try not to shatter his curiosity or self esteem. I will let him account for all his choices including studies and so on, but let him know that i will always be there to cushion some of the impact when he fall. He'll be not very materialistic, and will discover his own talents and pursuit it. I will try to provide a happy family so that he will enjoy himself thoroughly at home and in society. At least this way, when he got bore of us (parents) and step into the society, he had experience all the fun he could possible have with family, since I won't be around forever to have fun with him when he finally understand the importance of family. Ofcoz, I will teach him the 7 virtues and 3 letter classic, as well as some of the Confucius well-known quotes, and to learn mental sums by chinese. I will try to have him to be inclined to chinese culture, but if he insisted to not, I will not enforce...

Thoughts 3:
Happy 70th Birthday John Lennon, thanks for your presence in Beatles and all your wonderful songs especially 'Imagine'.

This has to be the most beautiful
The most peaceful place
I've ever been to
It's nothing like I've ever seen before
When I think how far I've come
I can't believe it...and yet I see it
In them I see family
I see the way we used to be

And the feeling of the wind
In your face can lift your heart
Oh... theres no where i'd rather be

There's no way out of this dark place
No hope, no future
I know I can't be free
But I can't see another way
And I can't face anther day

Topic: Ignorance is bliss

Is ignorance bliss to the ignorant? Are they wrong for being ignorant?

Human's stupidity is inevitable thus to me the ignorant are not at wrong, because there is a free will of them which enables them to have the rights to express their views. For the ignorant, they think that they are superior where he feels victory though insisting on their points and unwilling to accept corrections.

Yes, though their arguments might be nonsensical, and illogical, but to them that might be the 'truth', or the 'better argument'. Thus they are living in their own well, which is blissful.

Also, likewise to them we could be the ones having no brains, thus they regard us inferior instead, thinking they're better thus resulting them feeling blissful. This could be said in a way that they are being delusional to themselves.

By being delusional to themselves, it is artificial bliss, but artificial still is bliss, just as artificial intelligence is still intelligent.

There isnt any law which states that a lowly being is wrong to say nonsensical things. Besides, what hitler did is nonsense, yet he isnt wrong to do so, is the people that chose to be under his wrath. same theory here. They are not wrong, just that we are more right.

"People say he isn't right because he oppressed people and all that. But there're those that says what he does is right because he led Germany back to greatness and created more jobs for people through rearmament and stuff. And people chose to be under his wrath because of his charisma with people, they believed he could be a great leader, that's a bit of being foolish too ."

To them they think they're right, but for us because we had seen the whole thing, we know it's not, same concept, the ignorant thought they are right, they're not wrong to think that way, just that we know better that we are more right =)

Topic: 善要人知不为真善

However in case of doctors for example, if you have the ability to help people yet you do not publicize yourself to be known to more patients to help even more people, then you're doing lesser good deeds, better having more good deeds right? haha, just a naive thought....

OMG I saw my primary 5 friend which went back taiwan online just now~!!!
Yao Ding Hsuan , memories flood back my head, of all the times we ever had, where I always went to his hostel and ransacked his room haha. God I never thought we could ever still meet....

I remember the shirt he gave me when primary 5 before he left, I kept it till sec 2. I still have his photos taken during chinese projects haha, and also my birthday party.

Thoughts 1:

Consumption of meat， many people had pondered upon this topic whether eating meat is immoral. Well, I would say that eating meat in moderation is fine. As again, I would consider the theory of balance. Yes, there may be inhumane treatment to animals in the factories, however think this way, if we don't eat them, then it would mean that they died for nothing, so no harm eating it. Imagine if humans turned into herbivores, then there will be more competitions in vegetables, then what would the animals eat? Will they get extinct? So I personally believe that eating meat is not immoral because we did not directly kill it. However n some cases where we have to kill for survival, I think it is totally fine, even in cases of cannibalism. It is rather a natural instinct to fight for survival, and it is common to animals, thus we, as mammals, may not differ.

Thoughts 2:

Perfection. What is perfection? is there anything in this world that is flawless? No. So what is perfection? By Chaos theory, is order in disorder, thus perfection in imperfections, so this world is perfect? Coz we have so many different points of views, personalities, characters...etc. So perfection is whereby there is variety and diversity? And therefore it differs to everyone, but accepted by most. If so, is men perfect beings, coz we have pros and cons? Then is there 'perfect' answer? Or just simply accepted widely by society thus not necessarily true and correct answer.

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part 1 have me and jun wei =)

That day we learned, when your friend flunks, you feel bad, when he tops, you feel worse.

If your iron count s low, will the doctor prescribe tonic or put your report air on tv? So why put up the results of students, it's like pointing out flaws of the students instead of recognizing their strengths. It;s like a caste system, creating a divide.

Pursue excellence, and success will follow, pants down

No one got he answer? Now rewind your life by a minute, when I ask this question, were you excited? curious? thrilled to be finding out something new? No. You all got into a frantic race, what is the use of such mentality even if you comes first? Will your knowledge increase? No, just pressure.

Even a circus lion sit on a chair on the fear of a whip, the lion is called 'well-trained', not 'well-educated'.

Study for wisdom, not affluence.

What is the point of blindly cramming bookish definition?

All is well.

Watched detective conan, I realized that many of the culprits are rather forced to do the crime. They are usually under pressure or torture by the victim, and could no longer bare it thus did he murder without considering the consequences. Then I pondered, shouldnt we be more sympathetic towards them, I'm sure they did them out of desperation. They were under too much stress that they could not rationalize, thus they they just amoral, they no longer care about morality due to the situation. Then I read a comment by some fans, I think they have a good point, isnt the cause of the crimes the results of polices' failures to maintain law and order, including justice? Well, thats in the anime though, where the culprits are emotionally fragile, in real life they are just delusional and they are addicted to their personality and character.

Some thoughts, what is morality? Why do why abide to such human-implemented law, are we then playing god? Are we supposed to be civilized or just as beastly? I think, it is a practice whereby one treats another lovingly as what he treat himself as such. Quoted from a Confucius saying. However isnt it then promoting selfishness? Since we treat each other such a way that we want them to treat us the same way? Nope, by doing so, we develop a habit, and with the habit, our personality and character will morph too.

Just came back from Jacky Wu concert, it was completely hilarious, and time flew so fast, 3h felt like an hour. Really love the singing and dancing, and ofcoz the jokes!! Songs included Cao Meng's songs and also ‘货源假’ with its one-of-a-kind mv haha!! I was surprised by the proposal of kang kang, really funny, touching and surprising. Also, I took a pictue with Mark Lee!! Haha love his variety show with the foreigners. One of my idol haha, he really could handle impromptu situations. Wanted to rush up to them for autographs, but was too late, however accepted the news interview. I think I sucked at my english then since I just came out of a chinese concert... Anyway tonigt is really great =) BTW, IT'S JACKY WU's BIRTHDAY EXACTLY NOW!!!! 26 SEPTEMBER 2010, 00:00!!!!

Anyway great song that I almost forget:

張克帆-用盡一生的愛

岁月的风抚平成长的痛
经过几番悲欢离合之后
究竟有多少的人能够看透
有多少往事不堪回首?

时间的钟敲醒不老的梦
人生一场喜怒哀乐交错
究竟有多少感动可以保留
有多少朋友陪到最后?

这世界分分秒秒来去匆匆
从来不会为谁停留
一生中寻寻觅觅转眼成空
一旦错过不能从头

用尽一生的爱只为了换来释放后的自由
我爱过,哭过,痛过,笑过
这一生就已足够~!

用尽一生的爱不在乎是否能够天长地久
我无悔,无怨,无憾,无尤
这一生又有何求?

Untitled
I was once the king of your heart
And you, the empire I reign
Of importance, Of dominance
But a mere joke to human beings
A knife behind my head, swiftly
A knife into your heart , shatters
A sneer echoed deep in her heart
The story withered, and we part.
- Kyanta

The world is full of sinister smiles and hidden hazards.
Just a random thought, in love, two parties must trust each other, since there is love, there is unconditional urge to benefit each other, so there shouldnt be any room for doubts and mistrusts....

Found this verse of a song nice:
Even the best fall down sometimes
Even the wrong words seem to rhyme
Out of the doubt that fills my mind
I somehow find you and I collide~

When there is mistrust, you will find faults even in a flawless thing, and all the negative stuffs will be anchored in your heart deeper, and then you'll find out of all the doubts you have, you are sure that you and I collide...

但愿人长久，千里共婵娟

此刻正歠著Cappuccino，望著一轮皎洁的明月，一枝獨秀，周圍的星星都退避三舍似的，連雲朵都讓步了。
也是此刻，覺得有些孤單，有些寂寞，家裡又空蕩蕩的，唉，也許是昨天太high了吧！
明月像珍珠似的，又圓又透光，難免有一種溫馨的感覺，彷彿世界暫停在這一刻，或也許是我自己在這裡回味我的一生，而世界，時間，聲音，都透過我，像是河水流過一塊石頭，就這樣的溜過。

而鄧麗君的歌入木三分，觸動我的心弦，讓我情不自禁願大家能够一起共享这美丽的月光，過個美滿的中秋節。

Today went ktv, as usual will never have a unpleasant time. I think this time is one of the best. With Xun Hong, Tony, Manfred, Chenxi, Wanyan. Got really high towards the end, cant wait for the vids to be uploaded. Had a long chat with Xun Hong haha, nice talking to him =) Well, msn has an advantage, people seemed to have more thing to talk about on msn. Talked about all the usual topics I would talk about.

Omg I had never thought Xun Hong will has such beautiful voice. I had always thought he is a quite and reserved, introverted guy judging from his blog, drawings and his humble attitude. I was great after all those songs haha, got the atmosphere to go high with re qing de sha mo.

I think music is universal. It could be felt throughout the globe, it could bring revolution, educate, as well as destroy. Nonetheless, music never fails to suit with our mood. Music is one of the factor to a success of an event or presentation or movie. Could not reason how is there possible to have people with no interest to sing...

Some random thoughts again, what is free will?

Anyway, our conversations struck me thinking again, what is mind? how is that possible that what i'm thinking is different to what other's think? and how is it possible to have two voices in our head, two different personality, are we faking a personality? what is the true character of us? Is life a show? If life nothing but a work of many actors and perhaps some rebellious ones that became scriptwriters?

Anyway, yea such happy time today, reminds me of a song that wrote: Time falls away but small hours, small wonders, still remain.

Random thoughts: Firstly, linnet once pondered, why must be always say negative stuffs out of our mouth, like bad mouthing and etc, well not as if we can choose not to. Sometimes just jokingly insult it's alright I think....

She asked, wont we feel hurt, yes i do badly, i may seem happy go lucky, tanker, manly but I'm rather emotional and fragile, but well, its just another pov, why deprive yourselves of happiness just because of few words, our lives are in our hands, we could always have our own stand.

Furthermore, some people is born to insult, it's their unique personality, it's their way of life, I've seen such people. However their insults could be a learning point too, their insults are not plain vulgars, there are some substance inside, just brace it larh. Or it could be that with some insults will have some laughter, will strengthen the bonds...

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Thoughts 2:

Saw this small boy went up to a stage while some program organizer is discussing about the upcoming event, then one of the organizer shouted at the kid to get down, the kid is like just curious what it feels like to be up on stage, thus shocked when shouted at...

Sometimes I think this is how society kills creativity and adventurous spirit of kids, they are always deemed at 'too young' and 'trouble-maker', thus reprimanded at when make mistakes, resulting in them not daring to try...

Kids are inexperienced, the above scenario is a harmless one, but even if its a dire situation, why cant just nicely tell them the consequences or the harmful effects of their actions, if they persist on then punish...

Alot of times I hear mothers telling kids 'Stupid question', 'It's just that way larh, you very noisy leh', 'why so stupid like that also dont know', 'this is common sense'.... feel so raged by it, sometimes have to teach then understand, not everything could be learn from books or people, some mistakes are compulsory to make to grow. Questions like 'why is the sky blue' may seem stupid to a parent but could be an a level project....

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Thoughts 3:

I think the only way globalization truly benefited us is the flow of information...

And the worst is to take away opportunities from young companies...

The worst excuse is to say that the developing countries had increased standards of living, lol the world will eventually progress, thus increase in wages doesnt mean decreasing the gap between rich and poor but vice versa since the rich will benefit even more...

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Thoughts 4:

Watched an anime, it's about a son used to keep fighting with his dad until once his dad permanently damaged his shoulder, since then his father treated him like a stranger, yet the son felt worst, lol i totally think that is the son who had the problem...

Being a stranger relationship had so much benefits:
1) No more fights
2) Will have no expectation of his son to help him
3) Will be more polite and teat well
4) Able to talk as if to a friend
5) More chances to strengthen bond
6) No stereotyping of son being 'immature' and 'dumb'
7) Will not take son failures too seriously but encourage instead
8) Won't nag much
9) Won't keep adding salt to mistakes and ignore successes

人必其自爱也，而后人爱诸；人必其自敬也，而后人敬诸。

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Had fun playing time crisis, one player 2 screens haha. Sx was better =)

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this kid is good haha, a real presenter instead of a newscaster, rare to find such talent, he's a primary kid, but i doubt many of our sec students could par him.

Oh ystd was talking to an taxi uncle, he claimed that he gave his son the liberty of his own studies, as long as he pass, his son did not abuse the benefit and scored for on one subject, average for others. He did it because he heeded his parents advice to study hard, but despite the achievements he had, he landed to his current job, and losing his dream to be a singer... sad, studies really kills when it became the yardstick of success.

Yesterday whole family was quarelling because yong hang didnt answer my calls or smses to return my school shoes (which is because he was sick), then my parents relate that to the towel incident with yong bao had not return me. Then my dad carry on linking all my friends, including all those 'had some trouble meeting or returning loan items' friends, then go on to link my mum's shopping (she bought a pair of shoes, a dress, a handbag, however it had been long time since she shopped, 5-10years), then dad linked it to the relative wedding coming up, and as a stingy person he claimed that she would buy again at next wedding... sigh, sometimes they cant really be human, that explains the almost zero social circle he had... thus ranted on fb ystd...

Sometimes, we have to see situations without the history-coloured-spectacles, don't relate it the past. Many a times, we are blinded by the spectacles that we misread the situation, resulting in unnecessary arguments and unintentional remarks.

TONE is a crucial part in these, once an individual wore the history-coloured-spectacles, he would start to assume, start to make inference that he think he saw, start to make judgements thus start to TALK, and while talking, all the grudges will surface and result in harsh TONE, and then a vicious cycle arose.

Humans are fuckers, god's failure in the creation of the perfect being, is a flawed perfection, stupid and self-centered. BEAST as they called it, 'yahoos' in Gulivers' Travels, Piece of shit in my Kayapedia

Humans are just wasting the earth resources, destroying the beauty of nature, invading animal kingdom, dominating mutual connections, overwhelming god himself if there is one (poor chad), killing mother earth like nobody's fucking business,...

And what is family when you allow some outsider to link to all past grudges and dig it up again, hurting everyone in the family? Dumbasses

Haha long rant, then today helped out with the mooncake festival. Did the game station haha, tiring, had to keep maintaining a 'rushing' and 'enthu' atmosphere so that the kids could have some excitement haha. Then the lantern walk played with some kids too.. just 'beep beep' them and vice versa haha. Just one comment, there is this word cloze that each group had to solve. The first line should be 'Jesus is God', but they had to find the word 'Jesus', however I saw the word 'Lord', I was thinking if our Lord=Jesus, and Jesus=God, then isnt Lord=God? But they did it law by law therefore counted it as a wrong word, I think this is an unacceptable way to deal thing, it will kill creativity and ability to think....

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I think the guy above is really great. He's really having fun jamming. If only I had the voice and talents, sigh oh well, fat hope haha, bounded by all the earthly works. Just gonna enjoy singing in front of youtube daily haha. Without cows, at least I have a comp to sing to. Maybe if have the time and money then slowly go for courses... but is it worth it? afterall i'm slight tone-deaf...

Played bball, de-prove too much haha, to think last time I could play it so swiftly haha. This verse came into my mind: Life is like a plane, you can fly and soar as high as you want, but the crucial part is to know how to land safely. Some people got too carried away with the success and progress they had made and unable to land safely. I think this is beautiful. Not many people could land the plane safely, or rather not willing to land or make changes for it to happen.

As o levels is getting closer, I think I'm getting more and more unmotivated to work. It's like all the tests and problems I could solve them at home, yet not in school, or just that I'm too careless. In this rate, I don't think I can have any better than 40points in the 'O's. Maybe I'm really a procrastinating coward that refused to do what people do. Since young, I had to concrete goals, I had always stopped and gave up halfway, no matter how I challenge myself, there's this voice in me that kept chanting: Why work so hard? Will you be able to stand a chance in the sea of talents in the world? You're a mere sand in the seashore, a star in the galaxy, an ant in the world.

Then I started to think, how would life be years ago.... but no, life goes on, life wont stop for the sake of few idiots or lost souls... Just gonna continue live life to the fullest by enjoying as much =) after all, who knows when is my day, what is my purpose, sometimes just gotta have faith.

My future is made of the choices I've made, and since I have chosen this difficult path - as a carefree wanderer, I will have no regrets, and I will made do what I have's and have not's. Since I'm people-orientated, I'm sure my services are need one way of another. Heaven gave me a mouth to make it to full use. =)

they always said to hope for diffusion when sleeping on textbooks....
it did take place, cuz diffusion takes place when particles travel from high-conc-region to low-conc-region, by that theory the knowledge hidden in 90% of brain diffused into the textbook thus you'll find the text book 'informative' cuz u forgot what you had read...

the mind is a very powerful thing, there is no reason for you to always be hurt by the bad energy, there is always another point of view be it bluffing yourselves or optimism, and noone's gonna take this powerful tool out of you....

copyrighted by the encyclopedia of craps, source of religion of naive utopia, Kayaism, Kayadia

'superheroes dont exist in this world', because the world isnt worth them to purify. Good people dont always win like they do in tales.

Saw this injured fellow on the ground, the taxi driver was scolding him without easing his pain...

I did nothing.

Good teachers teach,
better teachers explain
superior teachers guide
Great teachers inspire..

Happy teachers day to all teachers!

Went for teachers' day lunch today. It's a 7-course lunch, similar to prom. As predicted, it would be very dead unless the emcee or 'troublemaker' are fun. The lunch started off rather dead, everyone busy eating, not much talking or participation in anything, until the quiz part where we had some laughter. Then is dont forget the lyrics. The emcee wasnt very enthusiastic, party because of her voice i guess, but besides the rv talent time emcee, i dont see much in student emcees.

Finally is uncle jeffrey's speech, very comical, inspiring and motivational as always.

I think being teacher is tough, it is rather unrewarding, stressful, tiring, frustrating, esp for moe teachers. To personally, it is hell. Teachers have alot of responsibilities, they have to mind their words. Some words might make a big impact, positively or negatively, on one student. For me, sometimes I feel really irritated when a student come to me and act big like "what you taught me is wrong, suppose to be ____", i mean that applies to wushu, coz my style of teaching is to give the infrastructure then the details, ofcoz i dont demand big in the beginning...

Then again thinking back, I've been failing to teach, to pass my knowledge of a particular thing to others, hopefully benefiting them. To err is human, but the comments like "I'm not surprised if he teach wrong" really angers me, irritates me, crushed me... It's either that, or what I taught is not most effective for him... That disheartened me even more. Well, that's when I feel 'why should I care so much, life will find a way, dont need me', and then another side of me will always be the asshole that persuaded me to act, to say 'this might be your purpose in life, a change in just ONE person makes a diff'... Im torn.... So I concluded: mai gei khiang, mai KPO...

Anyway, back to today's event:

Meanwhile... there's an uncle who was clearing our desk, however because he wanted to accumulate the rubbish on our tables, he accumulated on a left-three-people table. his expressionless face, coupled with the dumping action was SUPER HILARIOUS! it was like he buay song that table, so the three person was totally stunned, and we had a great laugh....

After that went to watch movie, Grow up, had a great laugh too =)

Eurovision 1994 - Paul Harrington & Charlie McGettigan - Rock 'n' roll kids

Wind Beneath My Wings - In Style Of Bette Midler - Karaoke

Sometimes I find it really annoying with poeple that would never quiet down even after the opposite party had quiet down. What good will it bring? Eg. After a little argument, A had quite down, B kept talking and ranting. Then after 5 mins of silence, B will start repeating the few things again, and then again a little brief silence before the next wave of same content.... sigh, then B will take it as B is 'reminding'... this is dumb man, no wonder cold war happen, sorry seemed to be not the best way to untie knots.... maybe time is...

Today went to ShiGong's funeral, felt really honoured to pay the last tribute to him. Without him, there might not be wuxuan, neither will there be KaiYu sx and us, Bedok 4. However, really sad that the atmosphere wasn't there, I don't see many of SG disciples there where they supposed to be there, and also some of SG younger decedents were ignorant and rude. Esp one of my height, which I believe not the 3 years old I presume he is. He did not bow to his ancestor, neither bothered to pay his respect. On the other hand, I saw how much effort Lin Jiao Lian had demonstrated. Again I feel proud of our wuxuan, being not only a martial arts hub but a cultural and moral educational group. However, the biggest obstacles are parents, esp for the younger RV's, which forbid them to go due to reasons such as superstitions, prioritized their other programs, unsupportive, or just simple do not understand how bonded are we and how good of a place for character development.

RV talent night was great for one point, ChenXi's solo singing performances and the EMCEE!!! He's great, fit to be an emcee, he had the substance of becoming one, unlike our bds. However, I must agree with Francis that some performances lack emotion and conviction. Thus did not perform their best and bring out their best for the audience. A performer had to feel good to be there and let go of all psychological hindrances and constrictions. Another point is that they're all pop culture, thus many a times people vote because they like the song, which is in the current trend. This is a major obstruction for those real talents trying to deliver his best yet with an unpopular song. Well, that's one of society's foolish nature. Can't help it.

难得糊涂

Jay Chou shows his childish side
http://entertainment.xin.msn.com/en/celebrity/buzz/asia/article.aspx?cp-documentid=4271025

At IndoChine, Jay asked The Drifters' Darren and Tannick to tie their hair up a la a Chinese terracotta warrior.

Halfway through his introduction of the restaurant, Jay suddenly asked his make-up artist (known as Ah-Du) to go up to the second floor of Indo Chine and wave down to them like how an emperor waves to his subjects.

Just as poor Ah Du was making his way up, Jay immediately got everyone downstairs to hide, making a fool out of Ah Du.

Jay had a good laugh and even said of himself, "I think I've always been this childish."

Haha, I think it's really completely fine to be young at heart... The team is fortunate to have an entertainer there. We shou;d be given freedom to have fun in life not just thinking about public impressions and stuffs like like that all the time...

After listening to feedbacks I think my opening sentence 'crazy' is very harsh, my bad here then.. well at least learnt a mistake. I wrote that coz I treated the owner rather different that other people, like wanting to be a bro trying to reason sense, so I guess that's where passer-by felt I'm flaming. Sincere apology then. Well, what's done is done.. good day all... good night... sweet dreams...

Hmm, came across this point of view... what if time is nothing, the way time seemed to be a measurable element is due to the interaction of matter around us and we came to a point where we could accurately predict them... to time reversal is impossible unless to re-construct all the molecules in the world to the state where you want to travel back to...

I find it a nice point of view...

My pov of time travelling is that every choice of our action creates a dimension, so by time travelling, you're just going for another path of life, creating yet another dimension since you tried to 'change' history. However nature had its way to deal things so the infrastructure of your lives are defined, just how is it executed on you... somehow there must be still balance...

currently had a debate over the post: let's all hav a transparent heart, hiding no unhappiness about anything deep in ur hearts...

my reply: crazy, if transparent=clear=can be seen by all, the world will be doomed then, every of your secrets will be revealed, all the stereotypings and impressions of ppl will be known, there wil be lots of cold war and open unhappiness...

Owner's reply: that is why we shld solve open unhappiness thru tellin the person and solving it.....but quite true, i nvr really did dat,haha....

my reply: is everyone willing to solve that? it's like 'in your face' insults if you were to 'accidentally' form a wrong impression or opinion on them...

passer-by's reply: If having thoughts about killing and destroying ones property is all in your head while reading this post, then this shouldn't be a place for you. Wei de is just being a sensible person. Don't come and flame people's posts unless you have a better one about life.

my reply: im just suggesting, we think, therefore we are, so what if our impression or thoughts is offensive, dont tell me you had never had wrong impressions before... if these are not concealed deep in you heart, then there is an open insult, which then will make a potential friend a foe... thats why we have to be glad we arent so transparent so we could always open the door to accept the potential friend and hide the wrong impressions or opinions

passer-by's reply: what i'm trying to get into you is that people has their own perspective at things and you don't have to be a keyboard warrior or a troll to ruin whatever they have. that way, you're being very selfish and arrogant towards people's feelings. think about how you'll feel if people flame your posts. good day.

my reply: good day, im sure im not flaming but suggesting another pov, how is that wrong? i may be wrong, then i always welcome that someone will correct my naive understanding... okay, lets have weide be the neutral party to judge my comments, i would gladly stop these and even willing to delete these post if im unwelcomed...

AM I WRONG??? SOMEONE HELP?? Or he is just too defensive??? In the first place I had already defined transparent hearts means that it is clear to everyone, if his definition is different, he could always correct me, let's say if he meant that everyone should be frank to each other. Still, somethings arent easy to be frank, imagine im frank to you that i think you're dumb, im sure the potential friendship we might forge is hindered with hatred already.

Today was fun. Had amazing race in changi, didnt expected much, but rather opened to surprises. Turns out the whole group was having fun ransacking changi haha. First time had fun with the class people. Well, did not win any prize, but we were very bonded and had lots of fun! At least for me. Our group name: TOASTED! haha

Well, what goes up must come down. Wanted to have lunch for Jomkwan's birthday, but a whole loads of people tagged along, not to celebrate her birthday... Was turned off why the people tagging, either insulting, insincere or just boring... Wanted to leave, yet after seeing Joseph being almost left out in Tanah Merah, I decided to stay on. Yet disappointedly, he still was left out in the end. Really guilty and sad... It was his first lunch with us, HOW CAN WE FORGOT ABOUT HIM!!! Sigh, decided to buy a gift for him for apology. Then there will always be this few heartless saint refusing to pay.

Humans are assholes. Humans are bunch of selfish idiots that care only about their pov and opinions. There are also ppl that do not wish to sing her birthday song in bus.. sigh.. what can i do? They are just pitiful... oh well everyone exist for a purpose, to bring out the good or be the good....

All I wanna say is.. destiny... What is rightfully ours is uniquely our, whats not, we couldn't snatch it... Cause and effect will have their times...

I didnt knew people had also thought that we're living to die. Talked with a friend the other day, he's pretty much like me except full of hatred, mostly due to his family background. Well, tried to persuade him to live a meaningful life by studying and support his family and to make others happy and ignore the unhappiness.

Actually, this is what it's called, universal law of attraction. The virtuous and vicious cycle persist everywhere. The whole world is interconnected. Though sometimes things might make us unhappy, we must always open the door to welcome the good energy to have a chance for these energy to generate more good energy in us. Vice versa, if we selfishly dwell on the misfortunes, we closed the door that welcomes good energy and welcome the bad energy too since we are depriving others' of their rightful happiness. Thus eventually there will be a clash and feud arise. To make the world full of bad energy, why not try the good?

This seemed effective, used this to talk to classmate and churchmate, both feel better off woohoo~! oh speaking of this, did a pic for 5mins or so, turns out to be rather an important factor in friend's group, cool... Act of Random Kindness...

http://news.xin.msn.com/en/world/article.aspx?cp-documentid=4245401

Another hilarious news... Looks like crooks now are so skilled that they could take men by surprise... They make use of the common joke cracked by society to rob... haha

Inception is a great movie, truly intelligent, truly captivating, truly a masterpiece. It is a somewhat mixed genre, of sci-fi, thriller, fantasy, action, comedy, james bond and a little horror. It adopts a matrix style whereby it will lead you to question yourself, not of existence but of dream. It contains the theory of subconscious, preconscious, dream incubation. It's about a man who tried to use dream incubation on another guy, using his dreams to alter his thoughts. I personally like the question: Is the world you are currently on real? Do you remember how you came to this place? Yea, it is true that in a dream, you just pops up nowhere, anywhere, randomly, yet it feels so real and vivid. Oh, and the concept of depth of dream, 2nd layer and more, dream in dream, I experienced it once, it was rather tiring. In this movie however, they brought in limbo, a hell for people who died in deep layer of dream, where they would stay there for a very long time until they got 'kicked'.

After watching the movie I can relate myself to it a little. Frankly, I never had a satisfying sleep where I could wake up fresh and revived, there's still that sense of mental fatigue that sleep wont cure. Often at my preconscious state, I struggled to refuse or reject that I'm gonna wake up in the real world. Yet inside, I might just be in a total dark world stoning, unless I could remember the dream. The theory in the movie is great, that there is this architecture of dream, and the architecture must never tell the dreamer the layout of his dream or else the subconscious will know where to get to and how.

here's one weird phobia:

Fear of the Happy Birthday song
by KiKi
(East Coast)

Every since I can remember my little brother, now 21 has been afraid of the Happy Birthday song. When he turned 1, I can remember him running behind the sofa in fear of the song. When he turned 2 he did the same thing.

Now that he has turned 21 today he is still running (not behind the sofa), and I thought that maybe he would grow out of it, but he didn't. I am not for sure if there is a name for this phobia, but if there is would someone please let me know. Thank you.

Bless this guy.... For me, I'm more than happy to receive that haha, current achievement: 4 songs on my birthday haha

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“Photographer arrested because of taking photos”.

A spokesman said, “As he was causing obstruction to the police officer in the discharge of his duties and causing danger to himself and others, the officers decided to restrain him and move him to safe grounds, but the man resisted and put up a struggle. The officers then had to handcuff him.”

Humans are getting weirder and weirder, haha people nowadays sure are privileged to enjoy just comical scenes... Cause of case: Impatient, arrogant, uncaring police, curious, desperate, unlucky photographer... simple enough?

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Indonesian Muslims told to change prayer direction

JAKARTA - Indonesia's Muslims learned on Friday they have been praying in the wrong direction, after the country's highest Islamic authority said its directive on the direction of Mecca actually had people facing Africa.

Muslims are supposed to face the holy city of Mecca in Saudi Arabia during prayer and the Indonesian Ulema Council issued an edict in March stipulating westward was the correct direction from the world's most populous Muslim country.

"But it has been decided that actually the mosques are facing Somalia or Kenya, so we are now suggesting people shift the direction slightly to the north-west," the head of the MUI, Cholil Ridwan, told Reuters. "There's no need to knock down mosques, just shift your direction slightly during prayer."

Definitely a grave mistake, glad they found it.... However, "just shift your direction slightly during prayer" sounded a little 'bo-bian-must-do with no other solution' in a exaggerated extent of original 'plan' to 'knock down mosques'.... Such trivial ways to correct should have been known already, no need to announce publicly ba...

So what if I didn't get top for the paper/subject? If its just 3 marks difference? Do you have to rub it in my face like some desperate loser? And do you have to announce to the whole class I screwed up part of the SEQ? Now take your character, freaking voice and attitude and get out of my sight.

my rpl:

One may be angry at something, but it is imbecile to vent in on others. To make others unhappy, why not keep that anger to urself and welcome the many happiness that might chance upon you? You're just purely selfish. Uve only lost a battle, just congrats your opponent and win the war, how nice would that be? For unable to take taunts from the 'loser', you are just degrading yourself, you aint anywhere better?

After doing a general paper question on materialism then a realize that Desai's story have signs of materialism too. For example Private Tuition with Mr Bose, the students find that languages are not necessities in life, and they are somewhat seducing Mr Bose with their luxuries they possess. In Pineapple Cake, Victor's mum used him to showcase her wealth rather to adore him as a son, and to get an extra portion of the cake in the end of the story. In Farewell Party, we could see that their sociallizing are very artificial and insincere. In Devoted Son, the filial and obedient son turned into a tyrant controlling every part of Varma's life, obviously neglecting and replacing the tradition ways of the family with modernization and 'certificates'.

Watched 2 movies today, toy story 3 and ip man legend is born. Hmm, lets star with toy story 3

Didnt watch the prequels, but it was hilarious, one of the cartoon movie that is not too lame haha, theme is brotherhood as usual, plus a little of 'letting go', for the benefit of more mankind. Though I wouldnt say is worth 10 bucks, maybe 5... but yea it's definately better than up...

Ip man legend is born focus more on the storyline than the moral or even the fight scene. If you notice, their fighting style revolves around that few moves. The actor isnt as good as donnie but still applaud-able. As for the jap guy that betrayed the dojo, I seriously think he's a bastard, despite his pitiful story of being forced to be jap spy from young. No matter how bad was his past, to be able to have such great masters adopting is like blessing from heaven, and as we know in olden chinese culture, brotherhood is taken very seriously, how could he just do that? lol, well the romance part is too rush, and the training part too was too brief. However I think it has a good storyline ba, still think ip man 1 and 2 is better based on actors actings and moral and essence of wushu.

Subject: The Pastor's Ass

A pastor wanted to raise money for his church, and on being told that there was a fortune to be made in horses decided to purchase one and enter it in the races. At the local auction, however, the going price for a horse was so high that he ended up buying a donkey instead.

He figured since he had it, he might as well go ahead and enter it in the races, and to his surprise the donkey came in third. The next day the local paper carried this headline: "Pastor's Ass Shows."

The pastor was so pleased with the donkey that he entered it in the race again, and this time it won! The local paper read: "Pastor's Ass Out Front."

The bishop was so upset with this kind of publicity that he ordered the pastor not to enter the donkey in another race. The next day, the local paper read: "Bishop Scratches Pastor's Ass".

The bishop was fit to be tied! He ordered the pastor to get rid of the donkey. The pastor decided to give it to a nun in a nearby convent. The local paper, hearing the news, posted this headline the next day: "Nun Has Best Ass in Town."

The bishop fainted. He informed the nun that she would have to get rid of the donkey, so she sold it to a farmer for ten dollars. The next day, the paper read: "Nun Sells Ass For $10"

After the bishop was revived, he ordered the nun to buy back the donkey and lead it to the plains where it could run wild. The next day the headlines read: "Nun Announces Her Ass Is Wild and Free".

The bishop was buried the next day.

Thanks Mr Samy Rajoo for sharing the joke, adapted probably somewhere in the internet. Haha power of media is great haha, or rather deadly...

2 great quotes today by Marianne Williamson:

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

"Children are happy because they don't have a file in their minds called "All the Things That Could Go Wrong."

Church tuition today is great, Joel & Wei Chong went to lead junior games for the first time. Not bad for first time, not enthu enough though haha, fun games, haha sometimes it's really enjoyable to see the kids enjoying themselves so well.

Watched Akeela and the bee at night. Rather standard storyline, but well one thing good is that they did highlight the importance of using appropriate or suitable speech in the right time. Eg when to use good english and when to use slang. So again I dont see why singlish is highly criticized. It's basically our culture. Not only singlish is a 'rojak' language, many of the words had differ their meanings from their original meanings. It's unique in a sense no country have this 'culture'.

Today's topic, is amnesia good or bad?

In a way, we could look at it this way, it is a way to start afresh for your life. But is this possible? Is it as easy as said? What if you had did lots of harmful things or such, it would be really frustrating and painful to deal with 'things you did not knew you had done'. In terms of friends and love, you would have to start all over again to gauge their sincerity and explore their personality and true colors. In terms of career, you would have to start again from almost zero, relying completely on sub conscious mind to take care of things.

Then, is it better to recall the past or not?

I think that depend very much on the extend the victim could handle things. If by knowing his past is to better understand the past of oneself and to improve on oneself, thats good. Then he must treat it like KPO-ing on 'other people' business. However, usually people would be triggered by their past and become depressed or even insane, unable to get over the regrets in life. Hmm, I wonder what will it be like if I struck amnesia...

Anyway, yepp, I must agree one have to not have regrets, treat it as a learning point. Just like trying to catch a beautiful scene in a bus, it would be hard to capture a perfect picture due to the random movement and jerks and tuns of the bus. Yet still, there will always be opportunity.

I had a greater feel now hearing the song, 掌聲響起, really a great emotional song especially when you feel not appreciated or in the case now, unsuccessful... in other words, failure. Used to hate the word 'FAIL' esp used by some people. Got used to that soon, now I think it's a great word haha. At least I know where I had done wrong. I think I'm being to smart for nothing. Planned so much: look for discounts, promotions, get friends (who volunteered there so could give discounts), tried to educate them... yet they are simply uninterested... they dont even open themselves for people to fascinate them. Sometimes it is really irritation, coz tours are a 2 way thing. The guide should be interested to guide them, and the visitor should be open to new things or facts. Most importantly, DONT ACT SMART, mai gei kiang! Not all humans are yellow, not all trees are green, not all animals are mammals, NOT ALL BIG CATS ARE TIGERS!!!! Sigh... cant blame them, they're old, cant walk, cant see in night, no interested in animals.... IM FKIN FAIL GUIDE, FKIN UNSUCCESSFUL PLANNER...

Watched Pursuit of Happiness, draggy but great show, another example of life will find a way. Chris was almost zero, yet he managed to pick himself up and get back in the race to happiness.

Anyway, few topics on my mind now.

First of all is the link between maths and music. Yepp besides that both are similar in terms of the beginning letter 'm', there is definitely some forms of structure in it. Especially canon in d, almost all, if not all, of the songs will include a section of the canon. Also, lots of songs could bee linked with 4 chords, as showed in many youtube videos. Furthermore, there are djs out there like the united states of pop 2009, where he mashed up 25 songs that i dont really like into a song that someone made me change the impression of modern music. There are songs too that can link here and there without sounding too off. So having said that, isnt there some kind of structure in it? And one thing which have structure and forms and laws is maths.

So than I think about horoscopes and personality types. I suspect that there is also a structure in life. Somehow, there are people who are similar in terms of appearance, behavior, thoughts, even destiny or fate. This might explains how olden days people could study the skies to predict the future, or fortune teller exposing your future almost accurately. It might differ because of prevention measures, unexpected situations, karma, milestone of life, simply summarized by 'clash of free will of 2 or more parties'. So somehow, there must be a truth in origin of life, in forms and structure and laws of life, as well as music.

Blink - The power of thinking without thinking

It's an awesome theory. Ever temped to do a different question in exam yet your brain tells you not to? And ended up a couple of grades different if you had not listened to your brain? Ever wondered why it takes 10 year to find out that a person is a jerk yet 10 seconds to obtain a sense of disgust at the first glance? Not all people do, though, but blink is really an awesome theory, backed by Freud's theories.

How to determine whether you choice is wrong?

There isnt an answer to this actually, everything will have its consequences, and the choice was yours. Often heard about people ranting that they are stupid or whatsoever because they have made a 'wrong choice'? What makes them think they're wrong? Yes for the moment it might seem wrong, so what? There will still be gain no matter how 'wrong' is it.

Life will find a way...

This was quoted from an old movie, Jurrasic Park, I think free will of human are strong. Regardless the situation, there is a chinese saying, 天无绝人之路，山穷水复疑无路，柳暗花明又一村, where there will always be a way to every problem. Somehow the world seems to be a better place with different views and problems and social status. As learnt in Gulliver's Travels, there is no perfect utopia, everything had it's balance, just as taoist believed.

Free will is strong, the power of it could propel a person into doing extraordinary tings you can never imagine. Miracles, for example, contains free will too. The willpower so great that something unexplainable happen. There are of course many people who could do that, not criticizing any religion, however prayers contains willpower.

Then again, people are so blinded by what the society is doing, or perceived 'laws of life', that they are like bats blindly following the echos of society. As such, parents are always wishing their children to succeeds in life according to their perception.

Yes, though parents take their children successes and failures personally as they live vicariously through children, therefore they had lived to see us surpass them in all aspects, thus will feel 'succeeded' when we succeed. But life will find a way, and own ways, thus sometimes, 2 ways of 2 beings will clash.

Yet I strongly disagree where being rich and wealthy is success. Success is rather to be a fulfillment of spiritual needs. this could range from saving enough money for around the world in 80 days trip or to teach a student well as a teacher. As long as there is a sense of achievement in the area you had put in a lot of effort, you are successful.

Then I suddenly thing of Harry Porter where they coul take out and insert memories to you brain. Sometimes i hope to be able to do that. I am rather scared that the level of 'enlightenment' I have so far will one day erode away with my greed of probably money. Since Maslow's hierarchy of needs states that self-actualization is the highest level of needs, with basic needs (bought-able by money only) as its very base, once I had no parents as the pillars of the basic needs, how will I change as a person, behavior, mindset, psychology, philosophy? A metamorphosis change might be possible. I could just become as greedy as blinded as foolish as everyone else in the world.... as far as I know, I could be the 180 degree of it, a complete misanthrope. Today lit they were arguing how Suno ( A character who abandoned education upon witnessing a loving couple) is self-centered and condemning him. Yet I feel like he is justified to make his choice and find that I'm on verge on becoming him....

today had lit lesson, learned the scholar and gypsy by anita desai.

I think desai's stories are brilliant, all revolving around finding spiritual needs. Her viewpoint of society is rather similar to mine. The society is very superficial and hypocritical. Anyway, the summary of the story is that this 2 couples traveled to india to find that their are not suited for each other and therefore broke up.

So thoughts gust into my mind. I remember that time in sin5's house we were singing '旧爱还是最美' until there's this part '两个对的人却在错的时候爱了一回'. Then his mum was wondering if there could be '两个错的人却在对的时候爱了一回', we answered yes. 对错 in this case is whether the 2 is suitable for each other.

I also came across this in James RVWLST blog, that he saw from Lu Ying's blog: "Hongster never die, Tiongxim first to die. Faithful is a lie, flirting is your life."

And of course there's the recent few scandals of the media.

By merging all of them together, we can see that the society is superficial to the point where love definition had eroded, and people just came together for many different reasons but love. Thus it is possible that a pair unsuitable couple fell into a relationship because of the external factors such as environment, situation, mood, state of mind, etc. Hence they would eventually realized about this and break up after that. So is it rather rare to have '两个对的人却在错的时候爱了一回' instead?

By my definition of love, love should be unconditional, and there should be trust between it, and it obviously is unexplainable yet insoluble in time. Love has wide range not only to couple, even to parents or teacher. When you love someone, to me it should be unconditional, eg. you love your child so next time they will be successful / teacher love students because want them to be more wise, so in couple, i think one should love to bring him/her the best, for example if the party had flaws, should persuade and encourage him/her to the 'right' track, not set laws and confinements to force the party since the party should have free will to still live his life and etc, so there isnt a need to assume that the party had another affair, if both parties have trust on each other, there is nothing to be afraid of. Furthermore, by being unconditional, the other party have the right not so love back. Thus should there be a mindset to dominate the party all by yourself? By doing so it is rather lust and not love. If there isnt trust that both parties would love each other, then why the need to marry?

Simple, because they dont think that much, as long as at the moment, everything is smooth and blissful, ta-da... marry. So it got me thinking whether true love had extinct, and everyone becomes dutiful or lecherous.