So I went to watched "About Time (2013)" for the Pop Up Cinema, this time, hoping to get some more people around me than the usual solo screening, I got 5 tickets. Of course, the ones that came only 2, but I am very much grateful already.
So here is the summary of the movie:
- Tim Lake was told by his dad that he can travel in time, but can only change what's around his life.
- So Time decided to redo some of the "regrets" in his life, starting from trying to get a girl he loved. He failed, thus “All the Time Travelling in the World can't make someone Love you.".
- Whenever he tried to solve a problem such as his sister, his dad, his wife, etc, some things are actually changed due to butterfly effect, especially his kids.
- Death is inevitable, cherish relationships
- His dad told him his Two-Part Secret. First is to live ordinarily, feel the stresses and emotions. Second is reliving the day again noticing the smallest detail and the joy of existence.
- His "power" can solve small bumps, but inevitably the bigger problems in life cannot be skipped.
- Living in the past wont move you forward
- There are life decisions that cannot be undone
- Tim decided in the end to not travel anymore, but to enjoy as if it was the last day. Thus "We're all travelling through time together every day of our lives. All we can do is do our best to relish this remarkable ride".
So since on the topic, I casually asked about my friend's "Regrets", and realised his regrets usually revolves around friends. Means he holds on to Friendship very very dearly. Kindda feel very honoured to be one of his. I really really hope I would not turn to be a "regret" eventually.
Friends around me are really really great. I will never dream that one day I actually had friends who water my plants while I'm away, who helped take care of me in events, bothered coming down for a tea no matter how tired, and even to the point to travel 1h back 1h forth for a couple of hours talk cock sing song only. At this point, I kindda question myself if I could even "match up" to the "intensity" of friendship I am receiving. Did I actually do that many awesome things for my friends?
Maybe my heart is semi hardened? Or too liberal? Cuz I remembered I did teared for lost of friends before, and had a few sigh that some friends I couldnt help and eventually drift; but eventually, some decisions that I thought would lose people, was not too bad in the end. I had always believed
I used to say in the past, that I have no regrets. I am who I am today, due to the product of all the trivial decisions and events that happened in my life. But ofcoz, at times I would look back and think about "If Only". Literally my funeral song would be, "Regrets, I have a few, but then again, too few to mention". It's however, extremely hard to embrace some regrets. Yet these, are the things that would push you out of your comfort zone, to instill a weird sense of fear that you may end up regretting, and thus you learn to make better decisions, you learn to sacrifise for the sustainability of a relation. That's why the famous "20 years down the down yoou will regret the things you never did rather than the things you did." comes from.
No 2 person is the same, even the same person in different timeline is different, we are all but Beings being Constructed from the different Fragments of Experience, World Views and Emotions. But I guess, nothig is lose that is born of the heart - the sincere affection.
People who says "we have the same 24h" obviously had no idea of the money and opportunity cost disparity that causes much time constrain in most people. And yet, in this 24h, we gotta juggle so many aspect of our lives, I really appreciate when I get friends who calls me before bed or between chores just to update, chat, laugh, be nonsensical, cuz seriously, how precious those little moments are!
Or sometimes, just doing nothing, makes me relaxed too, though more often than not I would strike a conversation, but I guess I have this concept that “True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable.”. In this era of ever stimulating and ever flooding information though, how many people learn to just appreciate each others presence without the need to look at your phones, or to guffaw away?
Well, though in every relationship, kinship, friendship, all feast comes of an end, but I hope I can cling on to whatever remaining I have. To some, I did not care enough, I did not help enough, or I gave up before solving issues between, or Im simply selfish to only make effort for those who cares. I am though, very thankful of the small talks that eventually ignites our friendships. I noticed in the end, it's these randomness that creates my stronger group of friends.
Every social group has its own dynamics though. I can only hope that the intergroup relations gets better and expand the Social Support system of each and every one of us.
