today had lit lesson, learned the scholar and gypsy by anita desai.

I think desai's stories are brilliant, all revolving around finding spiritual needs. Her viewpoint of society is rather similar to mine. The society is very superficial and hypocritical. Anyway, the summary of the story is that this 2 couples traveled to india to find that their are not suited for each other and therefore broke up.

So thoughts gust into my mind. I remember that time in sin5's house we were singing '旧爱还是最美' until there's this part '两个对的人却在错的时候爱了一回'. Then his mum was wondering if there could be '两个错的人却在对的时候爱了一回', we answered yes. 对错 in this case is whether the 2 is suitable for each other.

I also came across this in James RVWLST blog, that he saw from Lu Ying's blog: "Hongster never die, Tiongxim first to die. Faithful is a lie, flirting is your life."

And of course there's the recent few scandals of the media.

By merging all of them together, we can see that the society is superficial to the point where love definition had eroded, and people just came together for many different reasons but love. Thus it is possible that a pair unsuitable couple fell into a relationship because of the external factors such as environment, situation, mood, state of mind, etc. Hence they would eventually realized about this and break up after that. So is it rather rare to have '两个对的人却在错的时候爱了一回' instead?

By my definition of love, love should be unconditional, and there should be trust between it, and it obviously is unexplainable yet insoluble in time. Love has wide range not only to couple, even to parents or teacher. When you love someone, to me it should be unconditional, eg. you love your child so next time they will be successful / teacher love students because want them to be more wise, so in couple, i think one should love to bring him/her the best, for example if the party had flaws, should persuade and encourage him/her to the 'right' track, not set laws and confinements to force the party since the party should have free will to still live his life and etc, so there isnt a need to assume that the party had another affair, if both parties have trust on each other, there is nothing to be afraid of. Furthermore, by being unconditional, the other party have the right not so love back. Thus should there be a mindset to dominate the party all by yourself? By doing so it is rather lust and not love. If there isnt trust that both parties would love each other, then why the need to marry?

Simple, because they dont think that much, as long as at the moment, everything is smooth and blissful, ta-da... marry. So it got me thinking whether true love had extinct, and everyone becomes dutiful or lecherous.