I wish we can Google how a certain person feels about us....

adapted from Facebook. Rather true, sometimes in life, misunderstanding happens, and when that time comes, Im sure many of us would wish that we can understand what exactly made the other party responded in such a way, so we can rectify or clarify it. At other times, at a gathering, we do wish that we can know whether or not the person likes being with our company. Similarly, teachers would wish that they know what exactly motivates and interest the students. Perhaps, this is what psychology is for.

Sometimes, how I also wish that we can see the mindmap of thoughts. This way, we can learn how professional counselors think when they are interacting with their clients.

Though BNF is tomorrow, I wasted rather much time on crap things other than studying for it. Over the weekends, I only touched an hour of it. Other times were looking through wikis and textbooks on amaths logarithms and sec 3 maths, and motivational stories, and stuffs to try to add value to their pop excel time.

I think this week, one of my greatest pride was that some of them remembered the iceberg theory of the conscious and subconscious mind. Next is the sec 1s. They are not at all willing to learn and study, simply wasting their time. There are many complains against them, but many times, these are those that will shine the brightest in their later life. How then, can I influence them? But first, I cant even handle my own current students, how to handle them?

‎"Effective learning in the classroom depends on the teacher's ability ... to maintain the interest that brought students to the course in the first place"

(Ericksen, 1978, p. 3)

And I kept having the feeling that I failed at that miserably. Sigh, must buck up~!

Then, was looking around motivation theories for ideas to make wushu a better place. Today I did little on the leading, left it all to Tai, and lots of screw ups, which I now then see the problems, and thus have a rough idea how to improve. I think I do well in small groups, but not big groups, and it's especially hard with the vast age range. Hmm...

After BNF, my next big event would be Ted =D I wrote out the inspiration from Samy at the Ted comment box.

I want Happiness. So first, I gotta remove "I", for that's ego. Next, I gotta remove "want", for that's desire. I would left with "Happiness". Happiness, like love, is a choice, not a feeling. Happiness is the default, we should not need a reason to be happy, only reason to be not happy.

Inspirational. There is no need of finding reasons to be happy. Sometimes I was evaluating my life of how "happy" is it, and try to balance my needs and wants of happiness, and my expectation against the population mean, and self concept vs self awareness. However, actually, there is no reason to find reasons of happiness. It is a default, and it should stay that way, if I dont feel happy or excited or joyous enough, means I am holding on to problems, so either distribute it away, or solve it, or just put it down for the moment.

Stats is over~!! woohoo stared half an hour on first question, then figure out the solution, so lucky... but values seems wierd, but oh well hope everything's alright~! God's favour. Haha like age of mythology like that, got favour points. Anyway, yea, busy day there days.

Wednesday went to SCC too, only to find that the youths didnt come, only Alvin was there, so chatted awhile, then went to find Yong Jie, and then find Jorgen at Safra, then overnight at his house again.

Thur nothing much, went to visit Samy, chatted with the ex students till evening before heading to Bugis window shop. Came across this Zinc bag that looked attractive, so downloaded a yes/no generator app to help me decide whether or not to buy, in the end I bought it, then was thinking what for, until I remembered KY needed a bag since his current one gonna spoil soon. Oh yea what an awesome timing~!! He's damn lucky, he received an earpiece for present too just before his current one spoil. Lucki boi....

Today, another rushed day, went to bedok at 10.30, then went to ITE for lunch to support friend, then back to sch to teach friend stats, then was looking for extra calculator until he lent me his, then to SCC. Initially someone told me not a good time to visit, but when JL and KY visited, they were praised that they took time to come. Weird. Chalmers~!! long time no see. Really glad to see him, that guy, he missed me lots, hope can hang out with him more often.

They said they were going playground, like finally~! but in the end didnt. Sigh, so we played at the playground, push ups and sit ups, now my whole hand ache, cant even take out my clothes, or wipe myself properly.

Met up with wushu, then again to Jorgen house, then home.

Long day, tmr too, send my dad off at 6am, talk at 9-12nn, pop excel 2-6 plus cell, then perhaps study bnf. Sun wushu as usual, hope dont screw up, then bnf again. =D

CHIONG ARH CHIONG ARH~~~ LAST PAPER~~~!!!!

Had a busy week.

Tue was Valentines, I went for "The Wedding Diary" with Jorgen Shishi Angel. Great movie I thought, some comedy moments. Interesting plot, I think the few main themes of the movie are "Dont judge a book by its cover" and "Simplicity at its best". The whole movie was about the preparation of the grand wedding, which in the end turned out sour and lots of screwed ups, which landed the protagonist with lots of debts. So in the end, he got to swallow his pride and admit he could not handle the financial issues alone. The funniest moment I think is when they pop the champagne, and the cork destroyed an expensive ceiling lamp, then Ah Sai was moaning, "Try pop a cork on my head see if it drops larh!" hahahhaa. Some subtle truths are that marrying a wealthy household dont guarantee smooth life, also the brief scene where Colin Chong asked if Ah Sai wanted to expand his business, to eventually enjoy simply life. Ah Sai replied, "Why wait ten years for that, I have it now.", I think this is adopted by the fisherman story I came across once.

Thur was psychology exam. During the revision I did learn a lot, makes me really wonder if a child can really think so much, and somehow, knowing all these, was observing Uncle Kok Guan's kids. Parenting is really crucial and tough.

Fri was HSS day, I decided to join soccer due to the lack of members, I wanted to give them a chance to play, at least one member down they still can stand in the field. Interesting, in the end they had enough members, and have an awesome sub from sp. At night, after bathing at Tai house, helped him with his Ikea shelves again, then home.

Sat morning wasted a trip to Singtel, then to Pop Excel. I took the express maths this time, first lesson was quite and uninteresting, a few sums I even got KY or WC to help, felt so hopeless so pathetic, will revise my maths again after exams. Went in Nic's class, crap around, simple story about life problems. I held a glass and told them what happens in minutes, hours, days, they said nothing will happen, unless the cap is off, evaporation occurs. I said good try, but why focus on the glass, how about my hand. Then I said, eventually my hand will ache, so either drop the glass, or just drink it.

All these crap, hopefully somehow or another could add to their wisdom bank. Other than that, I think I waste my time and their time there, which i really feel bad, esp for NA, the reason I asked a rotation of teacher is that so they could at least learn stuffs.

Then during cell, we tried to surprise KY, so we asked him out to buy drink, he dont want, asked him for coins, he dont have, in the end Linnet helped by sending him to "find us" for we "were taking too long". Then at the vending machine we stalled time, then strolled up for the epic surprise.

At night, went to Millet Music for SX performance. A very casual setting, and won a prize for participating int he game haha.

Sun during wushu I felt damn cui damn failure. For SX to even step in to help. Seems like they dont respect Tai at all. This gotta be changed. Then the atmosphere was very cui too, which is the direct opposite that I want. I thought that the past 2 weeks, the atmosphere was bad enough, and they had trained legs, I wanted to focus on hands, in the end our training was crazier than the past 2 weeks. Sigh. Next week, perhaps something light for the hands, then games perhaps.

Well at least, spoke to a few kids like DY and YF, and encouraged them a bit. They would listen. It turned out rather successful I think, that YF started to feel motivated. I told him we want to see the best in him, just as how they saw the best in me and WS, we dont want anyone to be left behind, we excel as a wushu family. I exaggerated ofcoz on the JL training part. Hahahaha.

Then after that, due to KY cancelled tuition, I couldnt meet Serb and YK to by cake, so I passed them the money to buy it. So I went bballing with KY and the Pop Cell guys. After that we went to YJ house before going to Jackson house. Another surprise for him, hahahhahaa he didnt knew, he was like asking what was the occasion, we said nothing, just that his mother decided to host a feast. Interesting day.

Mon, KY actual bday, I crafted the photo frame, did a card, but then printer spoiled, so it was 7pm when everything is done, so I thought that he might have family celebration, so decided not to visit him, but instead pass them to him on wed.

His chains of bday surprise is really interesting, his photo album was even liked by strangers hahahaha. Popular boy indeed, hope he will grow up to someone awesome, someone great.

Was listening to Drew Dudley, when he mentioned that leadership is a term that we often overestimate, as we often think that it must be earth shaking, revolution making, or trend starter, so he came up with the observation that we have made leadership into something bigger than us, that this label requires certain level of cockiness and arrogance to be pasted on ourselves, such that we often devalue things that we did that influence people's life. As such, actually, many of our actions that made an impact on people's life are not remembered, that at times people might go to you and thank you for being an important person in his or her life but you have completely forgotten what you did. Also, it's also because so that we seldom thank those people that had made impacts in your life, and instead celebrate birthdays years after years where what it takes is just to survive 364 days of the year, but a small action could make a difference of a lifetime.

Then on facebook I was commenting about how the randomness of the world works in such an amazing way, that connects us, and thus we have random people popping into our lives by sch, by random chat, by facebook. Then someone commented: Wow, like pokemon, Wild Mr.Yap appears... haha so I replied, that life is indeed pokemon..... wild problems appear, we can run from it, of it can run from us, or we can tackle it using experiences from previous problems (captured pokemons), or we can capture the problem and use it in future =D and ofcoz, problems can evolve as time goes by with experience, we need badges to control them, and also, with that, it attracts challenges of higher difficulty, and finally, there are lots of trainers out there to throw problems at us too.

Today, couple of saddening news broke about the departure of few renowned celebrities, Feng Fei Fei, and a little late news of Whitney Houston.

‎"I've led a happy and interesting life. Thank you, my brothers and sisters, for the exciting moments I've experienced.

"For the songs I've yet to sing, I will sing to you in my next life."

- Feng Fei Fei

I especially love her 掌聲響起, it speaks about the importance of recognition and sense of achievement after many setbacks and efforts to brace the storm.

For Whitney Houston, her powerful and pure voice pierced through the ceiling of "normal vocals", "When You Believe", without doubt, is one of the most uplifting song, with such a legendary singer for her partner. Then, her "Saving All My Love For You", she sang it with so much gusto, so expressive. And ofcoz, her "Greatest Love Of All", just like the talk above, mentioned about giving pat to your self. We can give thanks to many many people, but dont forget to give ourselves a little credit too. There are lines in the song that speaks: "children are our future, teach them well and let them lead the way, show them all the beauty they possess inside". And that "Everyone is searching for a hero, someone to look up to". This is really true for kids, especially when I started volunteering at SCC, till now, if given chance, I would want to be on some of their sides, to jaga them, to see them grow, to give them support.

Psy today was cool, lots of interesting therapy that Im exposed of. Started to think about some of them and so on. Especially play therapy, however I was thinking, what if the client acted that way due to media influences? So it wont determine that he or she has that problem, it is basically learnt from TV. But the stress or anger management is cool, shall adopt it someday. The doodling one too. Wow, it sort of make me curious about those "gifts" I received from some people, like is there underlying issues? Hmm.... haha.

Right, V-day, hmm, forever alone. haha, well gonna catch Wedding Diaries at Katong, 8pm show. =D Was at Katong few days back, there was this roadshow, giving out prizes to couples that compete, or sharing their favourite love song. How I wish I had a spontaneous gurl, that we can spend whole day having fun, getting freebies and takign lots and lots of pictures together. Extinct. Haha. And so it seems.

Another week had passed, rather peacefully.

Was dreading for weekends at the start of the week, until I was reminded of the dumb sch compulsory trip. Sigh, waste of my time, would have produced a MC but then again, was inspired by YJ that I will not use MC as a fake reason.

Kindda think of it, this week passed without knowing what actually happened. Oh I think there's a test, stats, which went well, though I had no idea how that question worth 16 marks~!!! Anyway, brought an extra calculator for the student beside me =D

And so weekends~!! Fri was very rushed, thought in the end all my plans failed. Initially, wanted to go for the audition for Lets Talk after project, then to Times to scout for nice books, then to buy movie Tix, then performance at night. Then in the end gotta produce the powerpoint slides by that day, so scraped that, so I thought of going to SCC for the kids, but then I finished them at 3.30pm, and took a nap, woke up and it was too late. Sigh. I heard C on the phone, sounded really really really disappointed, sigh, I dont think that voice could be faked out, its so sincere, sincerely disappointed. Damn me. I can really imagine them having suffered a month of that, and just when they had a glimpse of hope that they can be more "wild" and "free", I didnt turn up. Sigh. They had not been giving outdoors time for the past month I heard.

Well, promised them I will turn up wed and fri this following week. Since presentations are over, I really doubt there will be anything else to stop me or hinder me going there already. Hope I can spur them on, at least not to be constantly deprived of their outdoors just because of their reluctance to complete their homework.

Anyway, after the performance, slept over at Johann's place, then went to sch, then go back home to drop things and then went to Giant, being 55mins early. Thus, I went to eat the Hotdog set =) free flow drinks~! =D

After the simply assignment, rushed back to Church.

That aura of the jovial kids transcended the thick doors, for once I was so excited on the first step of the staircase, that in that hallway, I could hear my heartbeat increasing its acceleration. The leaders led well, they were all playing happily inside, with the youths, where again, as childish as I am, I played along haha! (putting balls into their shirts, throwing the balls, intersect their captain ball, dodging the ball with exaggerated movements. Tiring, but worth it.

There's two kinds of fatigue. One, is where you are fatigue because of the overwhelming demands on your effort that went beyond your current limits. Two, is where you know you are at your limit but you pressed on to reap or to stretch for a desired and worthy return especially joy and happiness, or you dimply have passion in doing so.

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men.

Again used KJV cuz I think its cooler haha, and makes more sense. Wushu tmr, gonna be led by Jo and Sheng, wonder how it would turn out. So shall not be late, hope there would be some fun tmr =D Oh right, we were discussing about the First Class potluck steamboat, so cool, I was suggesting we make it big, me make it ceremonious, with the certificates and witnesses. Oh dang its gonna be awesome~!! Just like courageous, since we're gonna do it, put in our 120%, to cultivate a sense of belonging and commitment. Oh right, I felt sooo bad when a cell member called me twice and I missed them, and therefore missed it, I think he wanted to come~!! Arghhhh again my failure. Gonna be more mindful of all these next time, then, another cell group member told an idea and Im totally amazed by the person's initiatives of it. Really cool, to see how they bonded so fast, so close, so steady.

Had been busy.

Sat I went for the cimb talk, then to Fort Canning Park, then meet up with ex-scc people at PP for some fun and steamboat at night, 6pm, then to meeting.

Sun, got up with a headache, wushu as usual, then tutor a friend in maths.

Mon, boring sch day as usual. Nothing really fun. In psy we were introduced to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), and nothing more. Slept over at Tai's place to discuss about his trading game, and started on my stats assignment.

Tue, I thought we had tutorial, so didnt do anything the whole day, just lazing around after buying breakfast. Parents had a ridiculous small dispute over whether to save the dumplings for later or consumed immediately, like wth??

Wed, today, went for tutorial, and then stayed back for project till now. There was this one moment where we were discussing about the powerpoint thing, then a teammate was saying that she can finish it, then as another teammate was proposing why not we do it together someday, she seemed plotting for something, like whispering to her, with a weird glance on me. Weird, but I just have this sense that she wants to kick me out of interference. She have been saying: we can settle this on our own.

Shall not bother so much, que sera sera. Seriously, just of a project gotta hurt classmate relationship? Perhaps its just that I think too much, but by past project experience, just because a teammate might not appear as you expect, doesnt mean the teammate isnt a good guy/gurl or something. Personal and work problems got to have some kind of divide.

Watched "One Hour Photo" just now. It's an interesting movie on this photo printing guy who had "stalked" an ideal family to his perspective for years. He had always think that the family is a happy one, until one day where he found out that the guy in that household was having an affair, thus angers him to the point where he decided to bust in and expose them red handed in a hotel.

Though creepy, I think the protagonist is a good guy, with troubled childhood of being forced into child pornography , and thus probably did not believe the possibility of a happy family, until he sees the photo album of this particular family. In fact, he seemed to longed to be part of this happy ideal perfect family, that he often imagine himself being accepted into the family, as well as tried many stuffs such as spending time with the kid, buying gifts for the kid, and check out on the books the lady reads.

The last photo was probably imaginary, since it showed the family with the protagonist's face in it, smiling sincerely and happily. Interesting movie. =D

We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.

Sigh.....

Seriously, everything seems to juz crush in suddenly at the same time. Wlao cant the presentation be 2 weeks later? Seriously larh Im sure the tutors know the pathetic state we were in, cant give grace??

Just now internet down, due to the installation of Optic Fibre, spent lots of time to fix it.... zzz... so tired, feel like dipping in cool water again =D relaxing and fresh....

Later I got to redeem the LED light, then head over to various people house to collect back the survey that I handed out, for the project.

Tomorrow got to go the CIMB talk and workshop at NTU (pioneer), 9am-3pm, then rush back ECP for steamboat dinner.

Sigh, again a weekend burn and stretched for project.

But seriously larh, my teammates event want me to ditch the workshop for the project.

Lets balance cost benefits, if I dont go NTU, my team will suffer, its a together thing we go, so if one team member absence, then the start up capital given will be lessen, then unfair for them cuz its one person affect all. Furthermore, without that workshop, as oblivious as me, I doubt I know how to continue the competition, and knowing my team are inexperienced and also first time dealing with this, we need more heads on it.

On the other hand, if I dont go project meeting, wouldn't make too much difference, other than moral support, and more 'redundant' questions, I dont think I have contributed much. What I do is nodding of my head there, whatever they say, just yes yes yes, then whatever I say, first thing is redundant, unfeasible, crap, and didnt even try to sort of change a perspective, the yellow thinking hat, what can make the idea work, what can be improved for the initially impossible idea to work.

I kept feeling the tutor had something to add on, I was thinking the whole night that day, just to struggle out my bed to sms them I thought of "Space Tourism". With these, though not feasible now, we can find out how open are Boomers to the idea, what could make them try, price? exp? status? and what are the main considerations, cost? technology? safety? etc? Then we are able to value-add into current surveys, cuz we can find out what could be made to make these new traveling methods attractive to them.

Then, why juz compare their preference now and 30 years old, should find out woudl they ever try it if this new travelling method existed at their 30s? If so, what are their main considerations then? Last time technology not good, they might be afraid of trivial stuffs that we could solve it easily now, or things like that. We sort of requires a new open ended question that they could elaborate and gives us their perspective, their pie share of experience, not just dumping whatever we know and understand, then it would be the same as what everyone else is doing currently on the market.

Communication errors I suppose, cuz I dont understand them, they dont understand me, all they ever thought of is that I am always fooling around perhaps? Seriously, I rather my CDS group that craps alot too, but able to use craps into ideas that could work. Now my current teammate was like "bragging" (not really though) how busy is she and she sacrificed for the project. Seriously, if it was more important, its dumb to sacrifice for the project. The project we still have some time, and im sure virtual communication is available, collate data one day, nex day analyse and do slides, very hard meh? 3 days of full steam, pia a bit larh, will eventually turn out good. Imagaine I were to say all these, then they would bombard with lots of "but"s and "no"s and whatsoever. Then turn moody and irritated and stressed and everything will juz collapse.

So I believe its a wiser choice to juz be the asshole that ditch them, and they will feel I never contribute anything and mark me down, but oh well, my fair share of doing nothing since practically whenever I tried to help they would say they can solo, and none of my ideas, up till now, worked. My presence would only generate more frustrations I think, I feel. Ofcoz there would be also unfairness because the "amount of effort" put into the groups also determines by the social integration too =D but its completely alright. That's life. At least I would think I would accept whatever treatment I get, and its sort of fair ba, in terms of visible results, not the heart put in into it.

Perhaps for ASR I should start speaking up and pia with them, heck however they would feel, but actually, ASR is more or less alright..... so... aiya, if only these 2 switched, life would be so much easier.

Few stories and points to share today.

Firstly, it's a short story shared by a facebook friend, which is about these 2 camels, the mother and son, on a desert. So both of them got thirsty and the son headed into one direction. At that instance, due to the eye problem the mum has, she told her son not to waste effort because of her experience that normally that direction would not have water. Note that in this point in time, the son did not say anything, nor justify his reason for heading there, I mean in real contacts, he might be seeing mirage or some signs of water existence. So in the end both the camels died, and it was found out that the oasis is certainly in that initial direction.

The point he was trying to point out is that, the mother is experienced, thus, just like many professional, tend to overlook possibilities and miracles that amateurs would find and want to try, due to her own bias-ness and knowledge. The son, due to lack of knowledge, is ignorant, thus did not continue searching in that direction.

The points I wanted to add on is that it reflects the personality of the 2 camels. The mother are blinded not only physically, but mentally, as she did not open up possibilities and perspectives that the son might discover and point out. The son, on the other hand, does not have mind of his own, and didnt stand up and question his own decision. As power of blink shows, sometimes instincts is more important than intuition.

有对骆驼母子在炎热的沙漠中行走，行至途中，牠们感到十分干渴，就决定去找水喝。

小骆驼正准备朝一个方向去找，但骆驼妈妈那一侧眼睛瞎了，什么也看不见，就断定那边一片漆黑，什么都没有。于是牠告诉小骆驼：“不要去那个方向白费力气 了，那边什么都没有。”小骆驼听了妈妈的话后，就朝另一个方向去找，找呀找呀，找了半天也没有找到水，最后两只骆驼都渴死了。

其实小骆驼一开始准备去的方向就有水，而且离牠们不远。

故事的结果是告诉读者：没有经验的小骆驼找不到水，是因为无知；经验丰富的老骆驼找不到水，则是因为偏见。有时偏见比无知更危险、更可怕。如果我们一味的 以旧经验形成自以为是的观念，而不试着学习从更宽广的角度来判断是非，那么恐怕会错过沿途风景、陷入荆棘危险之中而不自知。

作者：如真 摘自：The Epoch Times (纪元副刊第9版)

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Next, is 3 simple short stories.

1) Once, all villagers decided to pray for rain, on the day of prayer, everyone gathered and one boy came with an umbrella. That's FAITH.

2) When a baby was thrown up on the air, he/she smiled, because he/she knows that he/she will be saved/caught. That's TRUST.

3) As we go to bed every night, we have no assurance that there will be tomorrow, but we have tons of things to do. That's HOPE.

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Was listening to a talk by Shawn Achor, and he mentioned about his childhood, where he was playing with his sister, and accidentally pushed her. She fell, but at that instance, to avoid all the negative consequences of getting scolded by his parents since he broke her arm a week ago due to pushing her away from an imaginary bullet, he blurted out: hey, dont cry, you know what, no one can land in 4 limbs like that, guess what, I think you're an unicorn. And that made his sister not crying, but rather boosted her the self esteem as someone special.

So the point is that happiness is determined by our brain. By tweaking this little perception, we can change the mood of a person, as well as the reality, in the view of the person. As such, happiness is not measured by the tangibles, not intangibles, but simply by the perspective of our own brain. It is through the lens in which our brain views the world shapes the reality for us. So if we can change this lens, we could enjoy a happier life in a happier world.

乐观中，看见机会；悲观里，只见苦楚。
In happiness, you will see opportunity;
In sadness, you will see only sad things happens - lonelyreload.com

This is true, just this morning, as I gave 2 bucks change to a person, suddenly the world sort of light up. I see people giving directions to foreigners at bus stops, I see a lady helping an old lady to pick up something she dropped, I see people giving way at the entrance of the bus, and I see cars stopped to let people cross the road first despite the rights to continue driving.

So though getting in into a prestigious school might be a joyous thing, but after some time, many of the students there would start to feel unhappy, due to the stress of the workload, the lifestyle, etc, and they simply forgot about the honor and joy they had by getting into the school. They would make a graph, find the mean, and would feel that those below the mean are not good enough, thus unhappy.

Similarly, in a graph, we are always taught to have experimental errors, because the data doesnt go in line with the rest of the data, so we were taught how to eliminate this data. Then another one is that we normally used to get an average data, thus in cases of creativity, or learning absorption rate, or potential, we get the average, then would conclude that those under average are "problematic".

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Next, is some good questions posted by my tutors.

1) How do you rate the Quality of Life of your old folks?

Quality of Life is defined as the complete state of well-being - in physical health, mental, cognitive, psychological and social, with positive life satisfaction, good environment and activities.

Then, in 50 years time, would you like to have the same state of Quality of Life? If not, what difference would you like to have? How would you impose this in the Quality of life of your folks too? Did you give enough opportunities for them to achieve better Quality of Life? Did you just say: "No need to know larh", or "Let us handle", or "You wont know one larh"?

2) What motivates you to wake up every morning.

It is a purpose, a sense that we have lots to do, duties to fulfill, responsibilities to burden, work, sch, but what if all these are taken away, what will be your purpose then? Self-Fulfillment? Or nothing?

I suddenly thought of a nice quote that I will definitely share with people in future when people around me gets "bored" of life already.

"Life" as itself is meaningless, it's your actions and involvement, with objects and people, that is meaningful. The world is a better place, because of you~

Then I will think of the lyrics:

You were my strength when I was weak
You were my voice when I couldn't speak
You were my eyes when I couldn't see
You saw the best there was in me
Lifted me up when I couldn't reach
You gave me faith 'coz you believed
I'm everything I am
Because you loved me~~