Friday, October 26, 2012

Wed tried double dutch jumping rope, first time in my lifetime!!! finally after so long!!! someone that knows that!!!!! woohoooo thank him alot alot alot alot!!!

Thur I was supposed to try clubbing. Yet due to lack of money, we decided to have night cycling instead. So that was with DQ, JL and WD. Started the day crawling up to bed, and just as I took a rest at BCC, the girls came in, and then decided to do something, which then made one of the clique to make a little fuss, disrupted my rest, oh well, kids.

So anyway, we went to Macpherson for carrot cake and chee cheeong fun, then Serangoon RK house. Today I tasted prata boom. Really interesting, and lastly slacked at concourse before heading to east coast for sunrise with only 1 survivor.

Well, as we waited for sunrise, it was 3 person, and then 1 went back first. Sad, always wanted to watch the sunrise with that person, never really had it. Then, the last person stayed, and we caught the nice sunrise. Figuratively, perhaps this arrangement/coincidence meant something?

While we chat, I mentioned about social support models. There's the hierarchical compensatory, means that there will be an order of priorities, of people that you will go to for any problem. Then, there is the task-specificity model, which means that the person they turn to depends on what the problem is, eg a neighbour for plumbing, friend for emotional, parents for financial.

The new era of social support model is probably the Convoy model. However, the original idea of it is just a set of close relationships, that will rotates and turns about after time. Adding on to this, I would like to imagine a big circle, and a small circle in it, in the way that the small circle has its diameter become the radius of the big circle.

So as we move on in life, the total social circle or connections is like a big circle, and in it, a small circle, the middle of the small circle is us, and the small circle circulates, in a random manner, probably with clusters of mutual connections here and there to determine the position of these connections in the big circle, so the closeness of the relationship is constantly changing from close to distant and perhaps to close again some time in life. 

This is why sometimes randomly we are suddenly close to a person we know, and suddenly it drifted and another person comes along. Sometimes you are so close that you share deep secrets or personal passwords but then as the relationship drifted, you change the password or do not speak about something in hope the person might forget one day. Well, such is a circle of life I guess.

This is why as much as I did not agreed, silently, with Grandma back then when she said that "people come easily go easily", guess Im too emotional and plunges myself into establishing relations too fast, and often after awhile drifted and feel a little hurt. Thank god I wasnt interested in romance or I would hurt even more.

Anyway really thankful for the person cuz he shared many personal stuffs, though to recall, I dont think I have one complete information due to my mind of sieve, at least as he blurts it out, it would sort of relief him of some kind of burden in his heart. Its good to talk things out, though I might not be a good choice I tend to mix up, forget or dont care haha.

Well, big day today, 2h slp, gonna be busy for the day till midnight again.  CIAO

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