For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life~

Mastering the art of anger is not easy, if using it wrongly, its like grasping hot coal with the intent of throwing it to someone else, you burn your hand first, so anybody can become angry, that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way, that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.

Today was talking about family. Then a friend expresses that he hated quarrels, and that adults often vent in on children. Well, sadly thats a fact of life, its a primitive nature for us to display our masculinity, to show our dominance, to feel superior, so often parents come on on a load of anger and frustrations from work, then load it onto the innocent children. Sigh. 

So it reminds me on my days in indo, swarmed with mosquitoes. Initially, I ignored it until the bite gets too much and too big, then I kill them. But after the first few kills, there's this uncontrollable reflex that tends to clap on the mosquitoes the moment I see another appear. Similarly, I think the feeling would be the same for bullying and abuse, or even murders. Same as boxing too, thats why there needs to be a mediator in friendly match, to prevent it turning unfriendly. In these cases, the thrill and dominance escalates. 

Luckily for me, my parents are like the cartoon Ive seen, a couple quarreling, then the rain came, the husband sheltered the wife from the rain, but continued quarreling. Haha, it still shows he cared, thus they are trying to solve a problem. In a relationship, its not about not getting conflict, but how to solve them, and the post effects. 

Sometimes, when people is anger, that anger is momentary, because he cared, because he wants you to improve, because he has expectations on you.  However, his favour, his mercy, his grace, his love, is forever, eternal. 

Today I spent the day catching up the new drama, and then watched Bucket List, about 2 old ppl with less than a year left, fulfilling their bucket list before they die, and found happiness, joy, and excitement in life. It's really inspiring, to see how complete stranger cliques on and the rich one even sponsored the poor for all the adventures. Would I have such companion in the future? 

Speaking of companion, in my opinion, people sometimes keep dogs because they want a companion, because of insecurity, but it might also means he demands obedience too. I chose to think that a friend of mine wanted to have one due to the first reason. 

Okay back to the movie, I just love this following quote, Morgan Freeman always have this kind of voice that makes everything seems wise. This quote is saying that a successful or meaningful life is determined by how much influence or help have you made to the people around you. 

You measure yourself by the people who measure themselves by you. 
- Morgan Freeman at Bucket List