Thursday, September 11, 2014

Just went to Batam with WD and CH.

Really glad to have them in my life.
Throughout the journey we had lots of catch ups and reminiscence about the past.
It's amazing how life just branches away after graduation.
And yea I got to know them more, 
and had more "case studies" of how people could turn up in certain parenting styles.

We had some conversations about child raising too.
Sometimes we feel that it's such a huge thing,
to raise someone properly,
not to create monsters or not screwing up a person life,
and how to nurture critical thinking and surpass us.

Well, this topic seemed to surface a few times when talking
to peers of my age. Generational thing? Cohort phrase of thinking?

Yea all in all,
I still conclude,
there are too many factors
that could shape a child,
that as long as it creates a purpose
in my life
to spend time and effort
on this worthy growth,
alot of things are up to life.

Anyway the trip is great.
First day went to shopping, bowling and arcade.
Didnt expect how we were crazy at bombomcars and just bowling.......
Was surprised they enjoyed indo food,
really felt so touched they actually are actually
receptive to indo culture and food.
So along the way I guided them origins of stuffs,
culture of favour and tips,
using hands, empals, etc etc.......

Second day went for shooting, canoe, cable ski and atv.
C was really awesome at atv, duh its cars!
and also cable ski! He managed to ride it at the end of almost 2h,
we couldnt even stand la!

Surprised that in Batam, time crawls!
One hour of nap and restore a whole day of energy,
and a good night sleep last around 4-5 hours only,
despite how drained out we were!
And though we have done so much,
time never seemed to run out!!!
Really awesome!!

Anyway yea then we were talking about why do I 
keep treating people......
Not a new question,
but seriously I couldnt explain.
Well, he asked if there is unconditional love,
and how far social exchange theory stands?

So I conclude:

1) My behavior is probably Im rather a lonely guy, using money to buy companion perhaps?

2) I believe the same dollar to treat, is used to do something the person couldnt have done at that moment, might evolve into something beautiful, rather than let it depreciate over time.

3) Unconditional love is present at parents when child is young, until some point when they looses this and became more demanding cuz they felt they put in enough effort for some reward. Though not applicable with all, cuz some young parents do not care their kids.

4)  It should be rather universal, just depending whether the exchange is "equal value" to another person eyes, again, symbolic interventionist, beauty at the eye of the beholder, individual values different stuffs differently.

Then last day shopping.
Sometimes I do feel extremely demoralize that Im not charming and skinny and fit,
such that I could look good in many fashion,
have my size for all clothes,
and attracts people whatever I wear.
Then again..... sigh..... what for?
Also, seeing friends buying stuffs for their siblings,
sometimes really wished I were to have siblings,
at least someone I could show care and concern for.

Well,
a short getaway ended,
was fun, tiring, and enriching too.
Really hoped that our friendship could continue on,
who knows what the future would bring,
especially with a rites of passage like NS.
But anyway,
on behalf of belated mid autumn, 
wish everyone longevity, 
and a bright future ahead!
May mankind lives on, enjoying the same pale moon..........!

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